Saturday, August 9, 2014

Update on the Courting Couple

Jessa Duggar, the first Duggar girl to enter a relationship, has been courting Ben Seewald since September 2013. She and her boyfriend will celebrate their one-year anniversary next month. What relationship advice do you have to offer the couple?

 Jessa Duggar and boyfriend Ben Seewald enjoy a double date 
with Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar at Shake's Frozen Custard

 Ben Seewald is Jessa Duggar's boyfriend of 11 months

 Ben Seewald and Jessa Duggar kick back and relax

 Jessa Duggar and Ben Seewald pose for a selfie

The two lovebirds take a photo of themselves reflected in a pair of sunglasses

116 comments:

  1. I JUST WATCHED THE MOVIE COURAGEOUS LAST NIGHT FOR LIKE THE 100TH TIME. I JUST NOTICED IN THE CHURCH WHEN THE CAMERA PANS THE CROWD THERE IS A GIRL SITTING THERE WHO LOOKS JUST LIKE JESSA. WAS SHE IN THIS MOVIE?

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    1. A few of the duggars were in that movie.

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  2. THEY SO HAVE TO GET MARRIED

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  3. Jessa is gorgeous. Her smile is beautiful too.

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  4. Beautiful maybe he will propose to her in september the same day they started offocially started courting. That would be special. Just my thought

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  5. THEY LOOK SO CUTE TOGETHER!!!!!! Thanks for the pics Lilly and Ellie! Can't wait for an engagement announcement!!!!! :)

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  6. They look so cute together!!!!

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  7. I think it is hilarious how they are always so close to each other but they aren't allowed to hold hands. Maybe if they could hold hands they wouldn't feel the need to always be so close!

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  8. They are SO cute together!

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  9. Keep up with the awesome work. You have showed me in so many ways how a courtship is supposed to work. I just want to thank you all duggars. My mom and dad just got married in 2011 and before the got back together my mom was not saved but my daddy was. And we went to very good church and all the children where homeschool in the church and about two years after my parents were married I was homeschool and I can tell how much of a difference it is to be homeschooled than to go to public school it's a verrrrrrry good difference and I'm glad

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  10. My advice for Jessa and Ben is to look to Christ in their relationship. In growing in Christ together they will grow closer to each other. Read Biblical books together and discuss them together.
    Be patient and trust in God!
    I am praying for you both! <3
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  11. Maybe Ben should consider that when he puts up posts about being a sinner and a criminal he may just be trying to identify the human condition in relationship with a holy, awesome God - but - he leaves the point open ended regarding himself. People want Jessa to be safe Ben.

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  12. They are perfect for each other! Keep posting pics of them, and I would love to see more pics of the recently married couple, Jill and Derick!

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  13. I would first say to seek the Lord's direction for what their lives are to be. If it means pursuing an education for a career, or serving the Lord on some mission field, and if that is together, or to wait for marriage later. It's easy to give advice based on one's own ideas on the matter, like getting engaged and getting married right away. That was the Lord's plan for Jill and Derrick, but the Lord may want a different direction for this couple. So many possibilities..

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  14. Propose Ben! Y'all get married before Christmas!

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  15. The world waits to find out more about Ben. We know he has a car window repair shop and he is going to school. So the next question is what is he taking, how is that going, when will he be done and where is that going to take him in the future? Is he paying for school and will he have a debt?
    All people really know is they have been courting for a year and he acts like he is headed to spend the rest of his life as her husband but it seems like a teen romance with no questions answered.
    I'd advise Jessa to scale back her status with Ben to just friends and consider other fellas too.

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  16. In my experience a lot of high school, college and university relationships never turn to marriage. That is even though the relationships seemed very close at the time. Who knows anything can happen or not. Good luck.

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  17. Those are sweet pictures and they are a such cute couple! I wish them the best- but I don't have much relationship advice! :)

    Grace

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  18. Congratulations! Continue to keep God at the forefront. He makes everything beautiful in His time. God bless you!

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  19. Jessa is perfect and apparently loyal as can be. Ben on the other hand seems decent but he has not really won everyone's confidence yet. At least not mine. We' have yet to yet see the whole story. TLC

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  20. I think it's great that they're taking their time and really getting to know each other before they make a big commitment like marriage. Jedda seems like a very sensible young woman.

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  21. Cute couple!! Love the last picture! Cute idea!!!!

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  22. Get married! (if in Gods will)

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  23. While some of you think that Ben and Jessa are not right for each other, I think that, if its God's will, they should marry. Ben is kind and loving and I think Jessa is learning to receive his love. They can be awkward at times but they love each other.

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  24. They are literally the cutest, sweetest couple....! :) <3 My advice: KEEP COURTING IN MARRIAGE. If America kept courtship in marriages more, there would be less marriages IN COURT.

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  25. Aww!! They are adorable together!! :)

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  26. I'm sure he's a nice fellow.But the recent news of his views of Catholics leaves a sour taste. I feel that if she marries him she supports his views. Advice? Marry someone who mirrors your views.

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  27. First and second pic jessa is resting her side on ben's chest Again way too close to each other (according to their rules)

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  28. Correcting first and fourth pics way too close

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  29. The kids have only had a month living close by each other despite the time they have been involved.
    It was once spoken to find a life partner you must find balance and often opposites to support each other and draw strength to learn and grow.
    What has been provided to view and read appears they are very much a like and both very young still.
    I am glad they are both in the same town now so they can witness mature committed relationships to guide them. Hopefully they can reflect on those for wisdom.
    I do hope and pray time is taken and careful considerations for any future commitment.

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  30. Take it slow, don't rush into marriage. Since you are young you have plenty of time to make sure your relationship will last.

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  31. my advice, respectfully, is to get engaged/married sooner rather than later (or break things off, even if just for now, if marriage isn't in the near future)... temptations become more frequent and more difficult to resist the longer you're in a relationship but not married...

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  32. Stay true to each other and your relationship will go far.

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  33. My advice is to enjoy courting and this special time of being single with no commitments. Take this time to ensure that in between the sweetness and romance and thoughts of the first kiss, you’re prepared to live together for the rest of your lives. Marriage isn’t easy, don’t jump into it. Cherish this time with your family and pray daily for wisdom. Ask God if the two of y’all should marry.

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  34. Memorize 1 Cor. 13

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  35. That was not much of an update . . . . . they probably don't need any advice ~ Jim Bob and Michelle have taught her well by example and from the Word, I'm sure . . . . .

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  36. Pay close attention to God's message in your life. Listen to Him and his guidance!!! Pray together A LOT!!! And stay pure!!

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  37. Hey Ben we are still waiting for you to say sorry...........?

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  38. My advice: cherish this time together and do not rush in to marriage. Spend as much time as you can learning about each other and building a solid foundation of friendship and trust - that is the cornerstone of a great marriage.

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  39. glad to hear they are still courting. I was beginning to think they were no longer together

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  40. I love the 1st photo. So cute! They look very much in love in all the photos;) hoping to hear about an engagement announcement.

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  41. my advice???? Have Lots Of Babies!!!!!! Cause they are GUARANTEED to be gorgeous!!! ha ha! j/k (sort of) *wink*

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  42. I should say something positive about Ben. It is just that the poor guy inspires more negative comments than positive ones. He is getting unfair treatment. People, including myself, should take giving up all exaggerations seriously and try to make completely just comments regarding Ben. Then if that happens he should fair well in the comment department. He has not done anything wrong and he has been nice and participated etc.

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  43. Why whould you court for 1 year??? I think it is desirable (and Christian rules) to have a short period and then take a decision. Perhaps he may still not marry her because he is too young and does not have a real job. He must have enough money for a large family.

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    1. When they marry, her money will be their money, so i assume they will have quite a nest egg ready for them.And JimBob probably has a rental house for them in waiting.

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  44. My advice would be to just cherish & enjoy these carefree times together. Heavy responsibilities come soon enough & although there will still be many joyous occasions these tender early relationship moments are very special.

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  45. If they are both born again Christians and they love each other and stay completely faithful to each other they should have a good life together, it's a love story.

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  46. One thing I admire about Ben is that he has to be an extremely positive person. He has stepped out started a company, worked hard at that and then with his heart on his sleeve expressed his feelings for Jessa and she accepted to court him and Ben has been given lots of 'ribbing' and he keeps on with a positive attitude. To be Ben and to do what he's done he must be operating totally from the strength of a very positive attitude and keeping his face to the sunshine and letting the shadows fall behind him. If he keeps it up he is going places.

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  47. Follow God's will. Whatever road that may be.

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  48. Ben acts like a real go getter, and he went and got her, but where are they going and when will they get there?

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  49. I agree with Anna Radchenko (#7). A courtship should not be longer than a year, unless it's a long-distance relationship (ie: military, job-related, etc.) If it's taking longer than a year (even due to serious legitimate reasons, ie: family obligations, financials or schooling) than it's time to cool it, break off for a while.... it is a sacrifice, but affections are precious and delicate, and should not be toyed with. Love is sacrifice, not selfish. Don't court unless you are really ready for marriage. You both will not disappoint the world if you break up for awhile. If you are ready, you only need enough saved to finance the first baby (let the dads come up with a concrete money figure)... even though you have to go to school and work after the wedding.
    This advice comes from a married mom with experience.

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  50. 16 says if they love each other, is there a question about this? My advice to the couple would be to answer this question and everything will fall into it's proper place, no fooling around anymore.

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  51. Blessings to these two with whatever they may decide.

    I admire their ability to remain together for a year with limited physical touch. It is natural and perfectly normal to want to connect mind, body and soul with the one you love. Just goes to show that God will keep you if you want to be kept.

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  52. They're REALLY cute!!! LOVE the last pic! Really neat idea!!!

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  53. Correct me if I'm wrong, but I don't see much difference between a 1-year courtship and the traditional path of dating/engagement/marriage. I thought the whole point of courtship was to not get your heart attached or make your relationship public before you got engaged, like Josh and Anna's relationship.
    It's one thing to keep physical boundaries in order to make a "free" decision not based on lust. But a close and long courtship like this one also creates emotional attachment that is hard to break off. Am I misunderstanding something?

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  54. Why is everyone pushing them to get engaged?? "Against the rules to court for more than a year"??? Really??? You'd rather they get engaged, then married if they aren't entirely 100% positive they are meant to be together?? They are still young, let them just have fun! If I rushed into marriage with my first real boyfriend we would have been divorced soon after.

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  55. Jessa is a beautiful and intelligent young woman. If Ben is not ready to commit to her by this point, then he is not the right guy. There are many more fish in the Sea and I prey she gains the confidence to break it off.

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  56. I really hope that Jim Bob and Michelle will understand that they need to encourage their adult children to make their own choices. I hope they affirm that they may decide to keep their courting and marriages out of the public view. They can continue their inspiring series and just say, so and so is courting or got married, we wish them well and they will still appear when they want to. These children should be entitled to the same normal lives that J and M had in the early years of their marriage.

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  57. What does Mitchelle and Jim Bob think about these pictures don't they think they are to close to each other?

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  58. I think with Ben's anti-Catholic statements and Mr. Seewald's long post targeting the Duggars, this is the planted, polite way for those two to part ways.

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  59. I may be wrong, but at least where i am from if one of the members of a couple is under 20, they reccomend courting for 18 months before engagement. Then 3 months of engagement. Ben also might not be stable enough in his business to bring in enough income to support a family yet and may be saving up for that.

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  60. Jessa, please do not feel pressure to marry him because everyone thinks you should or is pressuring you to get engaged. This is a decision YOU have to make for YOURSELF. YOU are the one that will be living with that decision, which could be living with Ben or not, for the rest of your life - not your parents, not your friends, not your supporters or anyone else: YOU. If you don't have 100% peace and assurance from God, please don't continue. The purpose of courtship is to see if you are compatible for marriage, if you want to marry each other. If the answer is "no", you still had a successful courtship, because you answered the question. You don't have to marry him!! No one will think any less of you if you don't so please don't be pressured into it if in your heart of hearts, you feel something is not right. Not even your parents have a right to tell you what to do. You must make this decision between you and God. This is the rest of your life!!! Don't do it for anyone else. And speaking from experience, because I broke it off from a guy who everyone thought was the one for me, because in my heart of hearts I knew it wasn't right and besides giving my life to Jesus it's the best decision I ever made. I finally found the peace I had been searching for after i did that! Take your time and do what you need to do, don't do it for anyone else...not even Ben.

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  61. I think that if Ben were older than Jessa things would have moved along much faster.. in the last series sometimes Jessa seems uncomfortable with Ben although he is obviously mad about her. I don't understand why Jim Bob was OK with them courting with Ben being younger.. especially since he did such a wonderful job of bringing Derek and Jill together.. just my thoughts.

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  62. Trying to give advice to a situation without all the parts of the story. Like what is the real status of the relationship? Everyone is guessing. Lily and Ellie recently reported the couple is NOT engaged yet. Is that true? My best advice is try to stay real and respect your self to both. It is not a good story FOR TLC, they are there just to tell YOUR story WHATEVER that is. Respect your privacy.

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  63. Jessa and Ben need to grow in each individual's relationship to the Lord Jesus, God the Father and the Holy Spirit, as that happens so will every thing else. This is what I have heard.

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  64. Once you get married then you will rely on each other to be there for each other always.

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  65. They are a cute couple and I wish them the best! Don't have much relationship advice though.... :)

    Grace

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  66. Have you seen the Seewald family website? It speaks negatively about fathers who make suitors jump through hoops for their daughters. It seems like Ben's dad is talking about Jim Bob.

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  67. 39 re rush so you are saying you think they might just be a first but not final relationship?

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  68. My prayer is that whatever God's will for their lives be done. If Gods will is not their desire I pray He gives them strength to trust His decision. I'm don't know Ben or jessa but God knows,and see's their lives down the road. Please don't make a move without hearing from God.as long as you have a word from God,everything will be alright. God will honour his word.It would be good to take sometime apart,fast and pray.Gods been speaking to both of you your whole life He won't stop speaking now.sometimes you have to get quiet before God so you can hear clearly.I'm all for marriage, just please do it with who God approves of and in His timing

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  69. I've been married for 6 years and have 3 daughters. My advice is to learn about each others love languages so that they can give each other the love that they need when they are married. I don't think it's good to push them like some people do. They should get engaged when they feel ready. If they are in a courtship for 1 or 2 years it's ok! My advice is also to enjoy the time before they have babies. Build a stable relationship before having babies. Things will get much more difficult with 2 or 3 kids and the marriage will be put to test when the children are small. If you get married to fast and don't have any birth control, you might get overwhelmed when the babies are coming one after another. So don't hurry! Take your time and build a stable relationship. If both stay close to the Lord they will be close to each other. My mother in law gave me an advice before we got married. She said "dont get pregnant the first year, but wait and get to know each other better first". We followed her advice and I got pregnant after being married for one year and 3 months.

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  70. Take it slow and enjoy your courtship! :)

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  71. Courtship is two people getting to know each other while retaining purity. Ben and Jessa love each other but Ben hasn't felt God leading him to marriage. We will wait for God's timing. For those of you who despise Ben for his comments, let it go. If you are really Christians you will acknowledge him as your brother in Christ

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  72. That is a profound comment about Ben not feeling led in number forty one. Did you just make that up or is there some place else you got that from?

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  73. The status of the couple needs to be clarified in order to give appropriate advice.

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  74. @Anonymous @ 41..what do you mean "Ben hasn't felt God lead him to marriage?" On one of the shows he was making eyes at Jessa and was humming the bridal march. I think he simply can't afford to become a husband, so he is taking his time. He is too young and needs some time to grow up!

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  75. @Annie@ 38 Josh and Anna were able to keep their courting under wraps. Ben and Jessa were "outed", not by them, and so were forced to make it public. It has been good for ratings, though.

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  76. Coming from someone non Christian (Jewish) but very conservative nontheless, all I can say is don't give in to pressure, whether it's sexual, intimacy, tradirion, engagement, to stay together, breakup, have kids etc. Trust yourselves and your heart and mind and soul. Your parents have raised you well, and instilled good values. If you disagree with one another it's okay to say so and then talk through it. Jessa be a strong woman and don't worry what the rest of the world thinks. Worry only about yourself and your conscience and God (and maybe your parents & family but put your heart first :) , but it's obvious you care about them). My point is if you're happy those around you will be happy and happy for you.

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  77. Jessa and Ben look so cute together!!!
    As for relationship advice, I would say make sure you communicate. You can never do too much of that! Follow the Lord's direction. And enjoy each other's company! :)
    --Love in Christ, Christian
    Duggar fan from Oklahoma

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  78. They are pretty close in a few of these pictures. Surprising for the Duggars. I don't recall Josh and Anna being allowed to be so snug together in pictures.

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  79. Don't let anyone pressure you. Whether it's to get engaged, take your time, get married, continue courting, or breakup. Stay strong in your beliefs and just be yourselves. Just follow your hearts and heads. Don't over think things but be mindful. Yes you lead a life in the public eye but you don't need to please the public. The only ones you need to please are yourselves, God, and your families. I say family only because when you're close to your family you don't want someone who tries to come between that bond, but who encourages it. You've got great values and a great head on your shoulders. Have trust and faith in that which you've learned and you will be fine. Be open and honest with one another and yourselves, never stop courting and dating even after marriage and kids.

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  80. While it seems that things are going well for the young couple, I would challenge them to be a little less...what seems hollywood-ish... and more real... Ben said early on that he was hoping to find a pretty girl and Jessa is model-pretty, no doubt... but beauty is fleeting. In ten years, she could be 50lbs heavier, and endured who knows what that can effect physical beauty. Jessa, while she seems to be pretty down to earth, I wonder how life would be for her if she was suddenly out of the spot light and a wife and mother to 3 or 4 children, trying to budget a one-income household and stay out of debt etc. I have a hard time seeing her hanging laundry on a line, canning garden produce, changing cloth diapers etc... I think they just need a dose of real life... hard and difficult as it can be... it seems so posed right now.

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  81. @Anonymous

    Hi Anonymous 1,

    Jessa was an extra in "Courageous," as were several other Duggars. They were featured in the funeral scene and in the father-son 5k race scene.

    Blessings,
    Lily and Ellie

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  82. I just went to see the website by Seewald's and I thought it was good. Mr Seewald has really made an effort to write an essay on the topic of youth and marriage. I found the essay to be supported by Biblical references and to make some very good points. I think Mr Seewald is doing the right thing to share via this blog how he was intentional in parenting and addressed the essentials deliberately. He gives a good expression of his thoughts on the matter and it is sort of a response to some other situations, perhaps some of the response is to the Duggars. He has the right to speak his views too. He seems very caring and kind and to have the best interests of others in his heart. I think he would be a good guy to know and I am glad he has opened up and let everyone get to know something about his thoughts.

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  83. Jess and Ben you take all the time you need to catch the little foxes that spoil the vines. You two are very attractive couple that everyone else wants to see what happens next. You are waiting for the good of God, your families and future children do not be rushed into a decision others have made so carelessly.

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  84. How can a previous poster assume that Jessa has any money to speak of that's her own? I highly doubt that JimBob has contracted that each of his children be paid in their own right. I'm pretty certain with him still paying for their freight at home, this family is paid in a lump type of payment titled to the Duggar Family Trust, or something similar to that, where he and Michelle have total control of ALL monies incoming to this family.

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  85. Why is the onus in Ben as to what his plans for the future are and how he wll provide? What is Jessa studying or doing other than picture taking and waiting?

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  86. My advice to Ben and Jessa is to make every day a Son shiny day, keep your faces to the Son!

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  87. Read the story by Audrey and Bob Meisner. Audrey strayed in the marriage but Bob forgave. It is a dramatic story. How Audrey, a television evangelist, fell into sin is a lesson to go over.

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  88. Seewald's website gives insight into where Ben gets his encouragement to hurry into marrying at 19 years old. The Duggars should be prudent. Marry now think later is not too wise.

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  89. When I went to high school it started out the handsomest top athlete dated the prettiest girl from my middle school class. After she had gone through high school she told me she was settling down and marrying a guy who was average, short and chubby because he was one of the nicest, most comfortable, loving people to be with. However in heathen America marriage was not a prerequisite to close relationships, now I understand that is not God's way for a person who wants to be in a relationship. I think Jessa and Ben should respect the boundaries until they are married. Hopefully Jessa will really know who the right man for her is. Measure twice cut once.

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  90. @Anonymous
    Anon 77, I mean that he hasn't felt led to ask. He may be ready for marriage and Jess is ready for marriage but God hasn't laid it on Ben's heart to ask yet

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  91. Hmmm...Mr Seewald may have veiled some low and hurtful comments. He also has daughters waiting for the right one and they are not getting any younger either. Who is he aiming these comments at? Obviously it is the man who gets the privilege of asking a girl to be in a courtship. The girls don't really have the control to fix their own situations. The guys can wait and wait and then finally decide to go out and find a girl to court. The girls wait, and wait, and wait....Mr Seewald should not say that the pool of potential partners diminishes, that is a scare tactic in m. h. o. Life today is harder, people don't inherit their grandpa's farm that he got for $100 anymore.

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  92. Is Jessa waiting to give her life away as a wife? She could make a career to support herself in the meantime. She likes photography and is very attractive, she might be a model. Or maybe go to a beautician school to get the credentials to work in or open a shop. On a court tv show the judge tells women they should become self-supporting and not depend on a hubby's income in case they find themselves with a situation in which they should have a means of independence. How many brothers does Ben have to marry Jessa if anything happens to him?

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  93. A person can ruin their life, seek God. I know the plans I have made for you...

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  94. Did you ever play a game called statue where all the kids danced around and then some one calls freeze and everyone stops in the exact position they are in?
    One day God is going to do something like that to us here on the earth,
    Matthew 24: 38, 39
    38 For as in the days that were before the flood they were eating and drinking, marrying and giving in marriage, until the day that Noe entered into the ark,
    39 And knew not until the flood came, and took them all away; so shall also the coming of the Son of man be.
    That day could be soon.
    The overall context of the times we are living in are a part of the story of our lives too.
    Youth may not be eager to enter into marriage when they consider the times they live in.

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  95. It is time for Jim Bob and Michelle to take charge, their daughters future is at stake. Jessa could be accumulating some baggage by now. In the sake of purity if Ben is not right for Jessa, Jim Bob should make the decision to have the court ship end now. This pair is shown as too familiar. How would another man who wants to be with Jessa feel if he sees his future wife doing all this stuff?

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  96. I wouldn't be surprised if they broke up. It's not because their courtship is lasting already a year, but they don't look like "love birds" at all. Jessa doesn't look happy, she seems to smile only for the picture.

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  97. It was only after S. R. stopped courtship with Z. B. he found W. and the rest is his story.

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  98. After getting to know about Ben for a year Jim Bob and Michelle should take part in any decision making for marriage because they are guardians of Jessa and will have to guarantee she is fine.

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  99. If mr Seewald thinks people should marry young, then he should tell his own son to take his foot off the brake and pop the question to Jessa. Yes, I read the article. It almost came across to me that he was saying that if a young person wanted to get married, then they should force the issue and make it happen. Now that may not of been his intention, but it came across that way. For some reason red flags go up whenever I see or read some of what they have said. They may be christian, but something doesn't sit right with me. And I don't think the Duggars see it coming. I hope I'm wrong.
    The other point I have is, maybe it's Jessa who has set the standard of how long she wants to court. In the Duggars books, they say that some of their girls have set tougher standards for themselves then they would. So jessa may of set a long courtship as her standard.

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  100. There is nothing wrong with long courtships. My husband and I were courting for about three years, mainly because he was in the Navy and at the time marriage just wasn't feasible. Cherish this time together, if it is right the correct time will come (we been married 30 years now). Don't let anyone rush you into anything you are both not ready yet for and enjoy the happiness of this time in your lives!

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  101. I read on the internet that Jessa was pegnet how can that be when she not married yet I think who put it on got Jill and Jessa mix up

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  102. Judging by the comments on these photos and the posts on Jessa's social media things are going good for Jessa and Ben. The impression given is that they are delighted with life and love and on track. So I expect and engagement announcement soon and my advice is to stay down to earth, kind, don't sweat the small stuff, and stay true to each other every minute of every day.

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  103. I see your point, but what would you suggest they do to get a dose of reality? Right now, this is their reality. Remember, they are still young, and I'm sure, in time, they will gain more life experiences such as you described. As for things seeming posed right now, I am sure there are a lot of deep and meaningful moments that are not meant for the camera.

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  104. Yes, the Duggar family posed as extras in the movie.

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  105. I think both are very young to consider marriage in the near future...but that is my opinion. The recent comments made by this man makes me see "warning flags" about his personality and his lack of information regarding other people's faith choices..certainly needs a little "grooming" in the
    area of acceptance of other people regardless of their creed or nationality....that is the Christian way.
    Makes you wonder what kind of life partner he would make.

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  106. Congratulations! Many blessings to you both! Seek God individually and as a couple! Also, a great friendship add so much joy to a marriage!

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  107. This may finally seem like an a strange blog post topic since there are over a 100 comments on Jessa and Ben's relationship that still looks quite good in recent posts. But I do not think it should be upsetting to them to see these comments because they have shown some Bible quotes and there is a Bible verse that I think supports all the comments being aired like this:
    Proverbs 18:17 He that is first in his own cause seemeth just; but his neighbour cometh and searcheth him. So Jessa and Ben you may be just but consider yourselves searched by us.

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  108. Please give them time to enjoy their youth and courtship. Marriage is a very serious thing and I am happy that they are taking their time. Life is not all about marriage and babies, it is also for him to concentrate on his studies, make a carrier that will allow him to support his family. Love this family, the show, but not the pressure of people for them to get married.

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  109. Jessa and Ben love each other and have great values they will do fine together. Jessa is so beutiful and makes me laugh whenever I see a episode with her cooking...Don't worry Jessa cooking will come to You when your married.

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  110. @Anonymous

    Yes, some of the Duggar family were extras in 'Courageous'.

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  111. Joy and Jessa are in couregeous at the funarel and the duggars are in the 5k to anonymous1

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