Friday, April 9, 2021

Update from Justin and Claire

 
Justin Duggar and Claire (Spivey) Duggar

Justin and Claire Duggar are loving life as newlyweds. They are living in Texas, near Claire's family, which makes Justin and Jinger the only married Duggars that don't reside in Northwest Arkansas. The couple recently did a video interview with TLC to share what it has been like to live together and learn each other's quirks and habits (link below). Justin has introduced Claire to a new hobby, too.

Newlyweds Justin Duggar and Claire Duggar Discuss Married Life

Photo courtesy duggarfamily.com

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  1. Can't wait to see what God has in the future for Justin and Claire!🎊 So happy for them!
    Is there a new season of Counting on yet?

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  2. I’m glad that Justin is living in Texas. Claire’s family seems to really care about him. I think it’s good to move away from your family and your town for at least a while, it makes you grow and become independent and discover so many new and fun things.

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    1. Yeah, it's good to know that they care about him, but what do Claire and Justin do for a Livingstone? They are so youñg...

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  3. I'm glad they're living in Texas. I think some of the other Duggars should try moving a little further away from the family compound too.

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  4. I used to go on bike rides with my boyfriend when we were in high school. That's what this video looks like. Two kids dating in high school. Who will probably be parents before the year is out.

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    1. If not parents, they'll be expecting.

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    2. They remind me of high school kids too. Oh right! If Justin was not homeschooled, he'd still be in high school because of the time of year his 18th birthday occurred!

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    3. Yet they aren’t since she is 20 😊

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  5. Good for you Justin leaving home was a great decision.

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    1. I agree. I think they'll do much better in Taxas than they would have done in Arkansas.

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    2. But what does he actually do?

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  6. I'm glad they're well and happy. I think it was good for them to live in Texas instead of Arkansas.

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  7. I like them together!! Claire has made a fan out of me with her love of Earl Grey hot tea!! I wish them nothing but love and happiness!

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  8. Lol, my first thought was, oh wow are they already expecting😳, but as that doesn't seem to be the case I hope they'll take at least a few months to spend some one on one time together before throwing in all the added emotions and hormones that come with a baby

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    1. Maybe a few years (hope so!), just like Ben Seewald's sister, who like married life but also have carcere aspirations.

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  9. I'm happy for Justin and Claire they look very happy. I'm glad they're enjoying their new chapter. I can't wait to see what's next for them. Looking forward to the new season starting. Natashà b

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    1. I hope to see Justin and Claire, Jed and Katie's full stories on counting on some day.
      I am curious to know if anyone has heard if Josiah and Lauren or/and Jinger and Jeremy are having baby #3? Looking forward to the show starting soon. Not sure if I can wait until fall or even winter. Natasha b

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    2. Jinger and Jeremy just had baby n. 2.

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    3. Thanks for saying chapter and not seasons. I wonder how many (precious) will be said before this thread is done,lol

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  10. Don't Jeremy and Jinger live in Los Angeles or did they move back to Arkansas?

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    1. Read the post again.

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    2. It named Jinger as one of 2 children not living in Arkansas. The other was Justin

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  11. This is an old photo.

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    1. Yes but the video is new

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    2. Video does not appear to work.

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  12. Time 9:45PM Fri 4/9/21
    Justin grew up feels like yesterday
    He was much younger bring a
    Chaperone to his sister Jill & Derek
    On a 19 Kids & Counting episode when
    Jill & Derek was looking at a house
    To buy. He was so young in the intro
    Of 19 Kids & Counting the old TV
    Show. I wish the couple best of
    Luck.

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    1. To bad parents feel the need to have other siblings go on dates. Where does the TRUST come into play from these parents.

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    2. Trust doesn't keep you from being tempted.

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    3. I absolutely agree with you 10:01. Their message to viewers has always been that they raise their children to be wholesome and pure and to know right from wrong better than "worldly" kids because of their Bible upbringing. Yet the parents don't trust their children enough to be alone with a fiancee or to do anything other than touch fingertips. It's such a double message! It's like they fully expect the kids to fail so they have to put absurd safeguards in place. What good was all the moral teaching the parents gave the kids? What good was giving them a purity ring and asking them to make that promise? Where's the respect of trusting the kids, who are supposed to be "mature" enough to get married. That trust is not there.

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    4. 9:59, it's not about not trusting, it's about not wanting their kids to have regrets OR give people occasion to question their integrity. If there has been a witness every time they're together, then they have accountability and no cause for reproach.

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    5. 7:06 What a shame that they've put their kids into a situation where they need a witness for everything.

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    6. Question their integrity? Your integrity as a couple is nobody's business but your own. Unless you're doing something illegal, nobody should be questioning your integrity. If they are, it's on them for being that kind of person.

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    7. 3:14, what are you talking about? It's just one of a number of reasons for a chaperone for anyone, not just the Duggars.

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    8. Neddy, Do you have a really skinny screen?

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    9. Chaperones in our current day are unnecessary and a sign that you EXPECT something bad to happen and that you want to CONTROL the situation. A relationship should not be you, me, and the chaperone who doesn't trust either of us.

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    10. 9:36, yeah, but people poke their noses into other peoples' business and make false accusations. Like when people were spreading rumors that Joy Anna got pregnant before her wedding. She has witnesses to say that that could not have happened.

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    11. @7:03 Accusations like that always have a way of being proven false over time. So what if some busybody starts an accusation. They will be the one who will look bad when it's wrong. That's no reason to make a third person chaperons always hang around.

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    12. @7:03 Look, I don't care one way or the other if a Duggar got pregnant before the wedding. Just because there are chaperones in place, does not mean that a couple can't figure out a way to be alone. I'm just saying that there's always going to be those folks who like to point out flaws in others. You can't go through life trying to please them.

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    13. @10:01,9:59,9:36 and 2:18 I wondered the same thing. You can't be Your true self with someone always tagging along. If you raised your children right right you should be able to trust them. @7:06 the only thing some of the Duggar kids may regret is who they married.

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    14. Thought this was about Jed and Claire. Not the other Duggar's? Kinda creepy pic. What is with the big glasses on Claire?

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  13. Do you know if the wedding will be shown on TLC?

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  14. I wonder why the TLC videos don't work for me any more. I can hear the audio, but no video plays.

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  15. What do you mean the only couple? Jeremy and Jinger don't live in Arkansas either?

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    1. Maybe they meant the Duggar men

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    2. They said JINGER didn't live in Arkansas. The blog mentioned Justin and Jinger.

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    3. She probably meant the only ones with Duggar for their last name.

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    4. I think they just meant out of the Duggar sons, so "Duggar couple", and Jinger is now a Vuolo.

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    5. Ellie doesn't say "couple". She said Justin and Jinger (not Justin and Claire) are the only married Duggars that don't reside in Arkansas.

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    6. Guys, it's reading comprehension, it's not that hard!

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  16. That's cool. Life is going well for them, good stuff.

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  17. I thought they would be living in Texas when they married because before they married I had seen a photo online of Justin wearing a cap with the logo Spivy construction so I presumed then that he was working for Claire's father and that they would live in Texas once married, I'm sure J B and Michelle are fine with that after all he has a secure job to support himself and new his family that is his wife and then the kids when they come, anyway Texas isn't far the Duggars won't take long to get there with their plane when they want to visit , the Spivy family on the other hand don't have a plane and the father is busy with his business so it would have been more difficult for them to visit often, so it all worked out good for everyone as J B's car lot business probably had enough sons working there.

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    1. Now that Jed is married too, I think the car lot has too many Duggars working there. Good move on Justin's part to move away.

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    2. Do you think Jed changed his job when he got married?

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  18. I was glad to hear, and Justin & Claire, are enjoying married life.

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    1. Would you expect them to say otherwise?

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    2. This is anonymous 7:13am, and I just realized that I typed "and," instead of "that," in my previous post.

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  19. I happen to like both tea and coffee, so I hear Claire. I do find it somewhat odd that food preferences or habits like that did not come up in conversations while courting or engagement. All the best to them.

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    1. Well, since they want to make sure they marry the right person so they don't head for divorce they would have being talking about more more important things like are you quick to anger or are you lazy, in order to make sure they married the right person, I doubt they risk divorcing over little things like that, but I suppose there's always something new to learn about each other when you live together, as long as it's not something big that makes you think"oh my, what have I done marrying you!"lol.

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    2. After dating over a year and a half they didn't know what the other one ate? Not very observant IMO.

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    3. As someone newly married, it’s different talking about things like that and living with them. My husband and I did talk about preferences and things, but sometimes it doesn’t really sink in until you’re living in the same space. 😊

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    4. Yep, I agree with Betsy. My husband and I saw each other pretty much every day while we were dating and engaged, but that didn't mean we knew everything about each other's living habits.

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    5. 2:02 You can't know if someone is quick to anger or lazy unless you spend A LOT of time with them, alone and in every day situtaions. Just asking questions about it doesn't cut it- who's going to admit to being lazy or have anger issues? When the Duggars are courting with a chaperone along, they're on their best behavior. We know that didn't work out so well with at least one member of the family.

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    6. My grandmother thought you needed to be together through at least 4 seasons beforehand or the marriage wouldn't be properly "seasoned." She was on to something.

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    7. Anon 7:36. That's so true. Lots of talk doesn't mean you know what the other person is really like until you marry them. My husband and I talked about our finances prior to marriage and how to manage our money. It turned out that we WEREN'T on the same page at all. We worked it out but it was a major source of conflict for several years until we reached a compromise.

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    8. @7:36-I think you brought up a lot of good points. It's pretty common for most people to put their best face forward trying to "win" the other person over. My concern is that courting is sort of a high stakes situation. It kind of ups the ante, so to speak, specifically because it involves both families (I believe Michelle referred to it as sort of both families being knit together). That's so much more pressure for the both the young lady and the guy to be considered "worthy" (pass muster) and knowing that there's going to be some degree of awkwardness (and potentially ripping apart, depending on how far into the courtship they are if things don't work out) on the part of other family members who may have formed close bonds with the other family's members (in anticipation of being related: sisters-in-law/ brothers-in-law, etc.). I'm just not sure it's such a good thing to involve other/whole families in this courting process. I also don't feel it's fair to press siblings (who may lack the emotional maturity) into service as chaperones and be placed in positions of either having to "report" their sibling or confront their sibling for an actual or perceived transgression. I understand the argument by some that if you always have a chaperone, ideally, no one can make an untrue accusation against you (and there's some truth in that). But if they're so well-chaperoned by so many discerning people watching for hints of deception, then how did that one person slip by sooo many chaperones in so many situations. Had that courting period and engagement period both been significantly longer(1 1/2-2 years), that family member may have been spared quite a bit of heartbreak. It's not just about the chaperones and the courting process; it's the rushing through the process. Mature self-sacrificing love requires more time to develop and more physiological brain development/emotional maturity than what these young couples are allowed (or encouraged to seek by those in authority). Just my opinion.

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    9. 3:13 - I love the way your grandmother illustrated that a good marriage needed to be well-seasoned by experiencing at least 4 seasons. Very well and cleverly put.

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  20. Continued success and happiness to Justin and Claire. God Bless.
    Joan,Marion and Marilyn

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  21. I wonder how much they interact with her family, like if it's similar to how much they'd be seeing his family if they were in Arkansas instead.

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    1. Good question. Does anyone know if she is a member of the same religion or following the same doctrinal “rules” as the Duggar’s?

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  22. I'm worried they haven't been renewed since we haven't heard abour a new season and there have been 2 weddings without filming

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    1. Things aren't looking good for a new season. Maybe there will be some specials or something.

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  23. My 19 year old daughter married her 18 year old husband in January and I am so happy for them.

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    1. My son and daughter-in-law were high school sweethearts. I'm so happy for them that they waiting until they had graduated from college and had good-paying jobs in before they got married.

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    2. I am so happy when parents encourage their teenage and young-adult children to mature into adulthood before entering a lifelong commitment of marriage.

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    3. Well, congrats to both of you. I'm so happy for both of you.

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    4. Yep, I married my high school sweetheart too, but not til after college and jobs began. If it's lasting, it can wait. If you have the freedom to be with each other without a kid brother or sister hanging around all the time, there's no need to rush. We both saw other people during those years and that made us more sure that we wanted to marry each other. None of this led to any sort of total moral meltdown that the Duggars seem so afraid of for their kids. I know lots of marriages that came out of high school romances (13 in my graduating class alone!), but the ones that have lasted are the ones who didn't rush to the altar a few months after high school graduation. You need a "pause" in there to grow up and mature. You may think you're mature after you've graduated from high school, but look back 20 or 30 or even 40 years later and you'll realize you were still a goofy teen at that time.

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    5. Likewise, my 17 year old son married his 18 year old sweetheart in January. We gave them permission. They live in our extra bedroom. We are hoping they have twins in September.

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    6. 2:49, I hope you're kidding!

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  24. Very cute. What I’d like to really know is what habits, personality quirks and opinions irritate them!

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  25. I thought they were going to live in Texas. I wish them loads of happiness.

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  26. Did they not expect each other to have quirk's? To be expected in any relationship.

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    1. Since they never were alone prior to their wedding night; observing habits and having lots of honest conversations were problems challenging to accomplish with chaperones!!!

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    2. They were probably asked to share about quirks.

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    3. They revealed nothing that wasn't to be expected. But also, they sounded like they didn't have the chance to get to know the everyday things about each other before getting married, which is a shame. You can be compatible on religion but that doesn't mean you're perfectly suited for each other on a daily basis.

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    4. Being suited for each other on a daily basis, what does that mean? So she likes Earl Grey tea and he likes to stay in bed til the last minute. Those aren't really quirks, and they certainly aren't anything a person can't live with or that make a mate unsuitable.

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    5. @7:37pm, oh yes I can just imagine them arguing already "how dare you drink tea while I sleep!" and "how dare you wake up just ten minutes before going to work!"lol, not! Justin probably eats breakfast at work and Claire doesn't need to stay in bed awake until he wakes, that doesn't mean they are not perfectly suited.

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    6. I think it means you could agree on religion but grate on each other's nerves with annoying habits or things you do differently around the house. I know couples who constantly nit pick and micromanage each other and it makes you wonder what they saw in each other in the first place, what they have in common, or why they stay together. I also know couples who got married later and were set in their ways, which were hard to change. So maybe these two kids were brought together by religious beliefs in common but knew little about each other beyond that? If they're only now finding out about daily habits and lifestyles.

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    7. @9:22 It goes beyond tea or sleeping late. Those are superficial things. A relationship is only tested when you share space everyday with someone. Chaperoned couplings are two people on their best behavior. It's difficult to really know that person or how they will treat you in the long run. Justin and Claire are still so very young and have a lot to learn, not just about each other but about life in general.

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    8. I think there's something to be said for adjustments too. In their world, both Justin and Claire have been pretty much continually surrounded by their parents, siblings, and buddy group 24/7 every day of their lives (then their chaperones during courting). It's got to be a big adjustment to suddenly be just the 2 of you...even though it's still not just the 2 of them most of the time, since these large families seem to tend to expect the married couples to participate in a never ending round of family social events and activities. It really does come across as the only way a couple can be alone together for any length of time is to get married...and then the families want/expect them to participate in weekly family nights and other family events...so how much couple time do they actually get and how is that leaving and cleaving, establishing their own independent household and family unit?

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  27. I hope Justin likes working for his father-in-law. Guess he thought it was a better option.

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    1. I think it was a good move for Justin.

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  28. Me and my husband got married at 18, and now we’re 42, it’s a lot of hard work, but now that we are older, we have figured each other out pretty well. I really think the hardest times is when we had children, that’s when you have to figure out the balance with everything. Best of luck to them!!!

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    1. Sorry your marriage has been a lot of hard work. That doesn't sound like much fun.

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    2. 1:51, just because she said it was hard work doesn't mean it wasn't fun. Marriage is usually a blend of both. Most worthwhile things are work.

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    3. I think anytime you're merging two distinct individuals, with their own preferences, habits, and family baggage into one cohesive unit, there's work involved. Learning to compromise-you're not going to agree on every last thing and both of you can't lead! LOL Learning how and when to compromise (which biblically should happen on both parts at times) takes some work. Learning to speak each other's love language (what your spouse individually values and how they are best affirmed) takes time and effort. If the two of you are always in agreement on everything, one of you is unnecessary as well as either majorly co-dependent or dishonest with themselves, you, or both. LOL Good, strong marriages require work-no one is born self-sacrificing or putting the interests of someone else ahead of their own on a regular basis 24/7.

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    4. I thought you were supposed to marry your "best friend" so how hard could that be to get along?

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    5. @9:06 Being in agreement all the time does not mean those things. If you have 2 easy-going people in a marriage, then you tend to naturally agree with anything. AMHIK.

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    6. People who never have a beef with their "bestie" are either dishonest, deceiving themselves, or in major need of that bestie's approval (unhealthy relationship). If you & your bestie are more like "twinsies", somebody's getting walked all over regularly. Healthy relationships inherently have conflict-working through it the right way strengthens the relationship and ensures both parties are respected. Adding children to the relationship does add layers of conflict and some degree of stress-the two of you are stretching to become the three, or four (or more) of you. ;)

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    7. 9:48, I don't think so. Two people can be happily in agreement in a marriage over marriage issues or child-raising issues, yet both still have their own personalities and own preferences about other things. Agreeing with someone over how to run the house or pay the bills (and things much deeper than that) does not mean you're their twin. Pulling together in the same direction to build a happy life does not mean you're getting walked on - you're getting walked beside. It means you know what matters and what doesn't, and you use common sense together to see what's best for the marriage as a whole in any situation, without "conflict" even coming into the picture. I can't imagine thinking "beefs" and "conflicts" are normal in a relationship. Who wants a marriage filled with those?

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    8. At 10:46- Even God (who knows everything) expected human beings to not always be in agreement in their marriage or child-rearing, as He instructed the wife to submit to her husband and her husband to love her as Christ loved the Church, laying down his life for it. It is not inherent to any human being to always "pull together". The act of "pulling together" means that you are not in agreement and must work to get yourself into agreement-one or both of you do not agree and one or both of you must give up something to "pull together"...so that means you had a conflict and worked (had discussions, applied effort, made choices) to resolve it. No marriage is without these types of conflict, evidenced by, as your put it, a need to "pull together and use common sense together to see what's best for marriage as a whole". There are no perfect people, nor perfect marriages. We're all works in progress; therefore, our marriages are works in progress.

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    9. 1:51 - how sarcastic! You can work hard on your marriage, even as you are totally in love. It’s that way with anything you are emotionally invested in. I was a teacher and a pastor. I worked hard every day but totally loved what I did. Living with my husband is the same.

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  29. Guess they decided NW Arkansas had enough Duggars so they wanted to live in Texas.

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    1. Just the fact that the married Duggars feel the need to live so close to family all the time tells me a lot about their maturity and how much they trust others (or themselves) out in the rest of the world. If you have confidence, if you're adaptable, if you're wise, you can "bloom where you are planted." That means you could move anywhere and still make a happy life. If you don't have family near-by, you make good friends and neighbors who are like family. Ask any military spouse if they get the luxury of living near family, or if they've built a life and raised kids wherever they were asked to serve.

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    2. Thank you . Very well said and how true this statement you made. Grow up and leave and cleave to your WIFE and not her family our yours.

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    3. Excellent and very true points @11:56 and 7:55! If you're unwilling to leave family to marry, you're not ready to marry.

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    4. So true and I could not see any of the Duggars completely out on their own or being told where to live every few years the way military families are relocated. It's not maturity to marry and then live across the yard from your parents. It's not maturity to fly home any time you feel homesick. It's not maturity to always have some sort of financial connection to your father and not be able to make it on your own. I'm wondering if Jill and Derick will leave Arkansas behind once Derick has graduated. That would be a big step.

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    5. What exactly is it about the rest of the world that they don't trust? I feel like they try to spread messages of love but then when the camera is off, they don't trust anyone different than they are and they sure don't accept them. They only want to be around family or others exactly like them. They want their kids to marry the same. Jill and Derick at least are sending Israel to public school and Derick's at a public university. I hope it's showing them that there's a lot of good to be found in the world when you leave home, and different doesn't mean bad.

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    6. While it's nice to have family around, the Duggars take it to an extreme that I find troubling. They don't seem to make friends with anyone except other families in their church group and isolate themselves from the rest of the world. It sends a poor message IMO. The lack of interaction with and acceptance of people who aren't exactly like them is rather sad.

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    7. Consider Ruth to Naomi when Naomi told Ruth she didn’t have to stay. “My people are your people; my God your God.”

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  30. This pic of Justin especially, looks like it should be on the cover of a musical theatre camp brochure!

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  31. It's eerie : they look like twins.

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  32. Please stop using that particular photo. Their expressions are so fake and weird. Jill perfected that goofy wide-eyed, fake smile pose. It’s not a good look. When they look natural they come across as the beautiful, in-love young people that they are.

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