Sunday, December 11, 2016

In Memory of Jubilee

Five years ago on November 8th, Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar announced to Ann Curry on NBC's Today Show that they were expecting their 20th child, due the following April. (Click here to watch the video clip.)

Less than one month later, on December 2, 2011, their joy turned to sorrow when Jubilee Shalom Duggar entered into the presence of Jesus. She was stillborn at 11:46 p.m. on December 11, 2011, weighing 4 oz and measuring 6 cm in length. Her memorial service was held three days later.

In memory of Jubilee, we have embedded the audio version of the letter that Michelle wrote to her baby girl during the grieving process. If you have been reading our blog for several years, you may have heard it, but we know there are many of you who haven't. It truly is a beautiful letter.


Audio/photo courtesy duggarfamily.com

54 comments:

  1. I forget - was this a spontaneous miscarriage, or was this where they didn't hear a heartbeat and then had to induce labor?

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    1. She waited at home for it to happen naturally after she knew there was no heartbeat, according to the show.

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    2. They went in for a check and there was no heartbeat. They had cameras on it was sad!

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    3. They didn't hear a heartbeat and had to enduce. It was heartbreaking to watch, I couldn't help but cry my eyes out.:(

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    4. Little Jubilee did not have a heartbeat at that December 2nd routine scan. The Duggars then chose to allow labor to begin naturally, and on December 11th, if I remember correctly, Jubilee was born at home .

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    5. No heartbeat, then induce if I remember correctly. I had a daughter, Tessa, stillborn June 23rd of this year for thethe same reason.

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    6. Didn't hear heartbeat, when they went to find out boy or girl! Spontaneous miscarriage though, is what they said.

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    7. She went to the doctor for their checkup and found there was no heartbeat. If I remember correctly, they allowed nature to take its course and she delivered a few days later.

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    8. They went in for an ultrasound and found no heart beat sadly.

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  2. I named my baby girl Jubilee Rose.

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  3. I have been through this 3 times. I have 2 daughters and a son in Heaven. The years pass by, but the emptiness remains. While I disagree with a lot of The Duggars parenting philosophies my empathy is with them over the sadness of Jubilee.

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    1. I lost children before having my son and lost two when delivering my daughter.
      They each are for ever a part of our family.
      What I don't understand is why jubilee take's priority of the son they lost and named.
      I realize they shared their loss publicly with us but it would appear his life means less.
      As a mother that still grieves for mine, I just don't understand.

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    2. @6:21. First..I'm so sorry for your losses. Yes, we have restoration with the Lord for which I'm eternally grateful, but there are still times I see a family with 5 children ( the number I would have raised) and my heart hurts. The Duggars were not famous when they lost Caleb so he did not bring in fame or resulting TV show revenues...Jubilee was a several part TLC special. They are in the business of reality TV stars so Jubilee gets the publicity.

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    3. I've had two miscarriages, and they hit me in very different ways. With the first one, it began the same day I found out I was pregnant, and I conceived a healthy child within a very short time after. There just wasn't a big emotional impact with that one. The second time around, there had been a big gap between babies and I knew it would probably be my last one. I was also farther along. That one hit me a lot harder. I don't even really think about the first one that much. They have talked about how devastated they were that their choice of birth control may have caused Caleb's death. Jubilee's miscarriage was the fresh grief, they saw her little body, she was the last baby, etc., etc., which is probably why we heard more about her and their grief. I doubt the money and fame have anything to do with it.

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  4. I lost a baby on December 10th 2001 and another one on November 25th the following year so I can totally relate to Michelle's pain. May they find peace and comfort today. I have a couple of Christmas ornaments that a friend made me in memory of my babies. I do hope JB and Michelle have a special item that lets them know Jubilee isn't forgotten.

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  5. Why has there never been an "In Memory" post for Caleb on this blog?

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    1. http://www.duggarfamilyblog.com/p/birthdays.html On the very bottom of the page is a in memory title. I will say that Caleb was very early in their marriage and Caleb was a very early miscarriage. They didn't even know if it was a girl or boy. This page wasn't around when Caleb passed so you can see why there is no "In Memory" post.

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    2. Who is Caleb? Did Michelle lose another baby? I wonder why they don't honor him as they do Jubilee.

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    3. They wouldnt name their son caleb. They use all "j" names.

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    4. "Caleb" was what they named the miscarriage. It obviously was before they decided on all J's. They weren't even sure of the gender of that baby, but they used "Caleb" anyway.

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  6. I DIDN'T KNOW THAT SHE was the 2 baby lost, which one went before her ???

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    1. I believe that baby was Caleb, I think he was before Josh.

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    2. The second pregnancy was a miscarriage early in the pregnancy. They named the baby Caleb.

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    3. A baby they called Caleb, not knowing the gender. The baby the was between Josh and Jana and John-David.

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    4. It was her second pregnancy between Josh and the 1st set of twins.

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    5. One in between Josh and Jana/John david

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    6. Caleb was after josh and before jana and john david

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    7. She lost another baby, Caleb Duggar, in between Josh and the twins, Jana and John David.

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    8. Caleb. I think after the first set of twins...? I could be wrong. It was a long time ago. Lilly and Elly posted about it not to long ago.

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  7. There 1st first child I believe. .. I thought he was named David but not positive

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  8. No mother should have to bury a child, but so many of us do. That child goes with you each and every day. How sad that those that don't have a hope of eternal life miss out on the blessing of one day, soon, those babies will once again be with their Mommy. To all of us Mothers with empty arms for those babies and Grandbabies, in a twinkling of an eye, we shall see them again. It's God's promuse to HIS children!

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  9. Our grandbaby was stillborn on Sept 4, 2016. She was beautiful.

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  10. A beautiful and precious letter! My heart grieves for all the sorrowing women who have lost their precious babies.

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  11. Jim bob and Michelle have been such a witness to me over the years and I will never forget when they found out that Jubilee heart beat could not be found and that she was gone. They both were heartbroken but did not question God or complain they praised Jesus - yes praised Jesus!! They are not the type of Christians who only praise God during the good times - they praised Him in the good and bad and for what He gives and takes away. Their reactions to the loss of sweet Jubilee will stay with me forever.

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  12. Please stop posting that picture. It's the second time you've done it lately. It's upsetting.

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    1. I don't like seeing it, either. Can we agree that this will be the last time it gets put up?

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    2. Easy, don't look at it. It is their page to pay homage to their baby girl.

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    3. I love this picture! Thank you for posting it! Too many people think that babies in the womb are not human... so seeing this tiny little hand is amazing. Jubilee was perfectly and wonderfully made.

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    4. It's a human baby's hand. What's upsetting?

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    5. It's upsetting for many to see a dead body. Why is that so hard to understand? Try to have some compassion.

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    6. It's there babies picture the only one they have and they share it as others would normal photos

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    7. Not every picture is appropriate to share with the whole world.

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  13. I lost a son 9 years ago this past November. One of the hardest things I have ever had to go through. Beautiful letter by Michelle. God bless all our angel babies.

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  14. Am I the only one who thinks it's bizarre for Michelle to make reference to society's thoughts and views of babies?? A financial drain? A bother? This is supposed to be a heart-felt letter to her deceased child. And she is talking about what society thinks of children? The Duggars need to worry about themselves and their family, not worry about the rest of us.

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  15. I lost 5 babies I kèep them in my heart my lord has them waiting for me duggars please stop exploiting and have some compassion on women

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  16. I'm sorry for your loss. I don't think they're exploiting, though.

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  17. I recently gave birth to an angel Dec. 2nd. I'm so broken hearted & trying to learn how to cope with this pain. Maybe when the time is right, I should write a letter to my sweet boy. We named him Jackson. God Bless all those who are grieving the loss of a child.

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  18. As much as I disapprove of the Duggar lifestyle and many things they do or say, my heart broke listening to this. No mother deserves to go through this heartbreak, especially a second time.

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  19. So sorry for your lost on baby jubliee my prayers are with you and your family I remember that show I wanted to cry

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  20. I’m crying this is so sad and sweet

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