Thursday, September 26, 2019

Remembering Annabell

Joy's necklace, in memory of Annabell Elise Forsyth
 
We wanted to share this photo of the lovely necklace that Joy-Anna's sister-in-law, Meagan, gave Joy to remember sweet little Annabell, the baby that Joy and Austin lost in late June. Below is also a new snapshot of Gideon (one-and-a-half) with Uncle Jackson (15).

Gideon Forsyth and Jackson Duggar
Gideon Forsyth and Jackson Duggar

Photos courtesy of duggarfamily.com

54 comments:

  1. I cannot believe adorable little Jackson is 15

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  2. I think the necklace was very thoughtful.

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  3. Beautiful necklace. That was very thoughtful of her SIL. Awwww

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  4. What a very lovely thought of Joys sister-in-law to get that necklace to remember Annabell by. Obviously joy will always carry Annabell in her memories & now she has a necklace close to her heart to be another permanent reminder of her beautiful daughter. I hope Joy (& Austin) are gaining strength with each passing day & they are dealing with their loss however is right for them. I’m sure as October comes around & the births of all her nieces, Joy will feel the pain of Annabell’s loss all the greater. My heart goes out to this young girl & all those readers of this blog that have suffered the devastating loss of a baby, there is nothing I can imagine more painful than leaving hospital with empty arms & an aching heart & no bouncing baby to show for all the months you have nurtured it inside you. I’m sure Joy is so grateful for Gideon & that gorgeous smile of his that must light up her days when she probably doesn’t feel much like smiling. Gideon is turning into a lovely little boy & he actually looks like his uncle in this picture.

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    1. What a beautiful post. Thank you so much for such sweet words of kindness and understanding.

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  5. How precious! ❤️

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  6. That is such a sweet sentiment.

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  7. I just had a miscarriage this past Sunday evening/Monday morning, and still trying to process it, let alone begin greiving. I really like reading this, knowing I'll be able to remember him in ways like this.

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    1. I'm so sorry to hear that and I pray that God will surround you with His comfort in this hard time of loss.

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    2. You will see your baby boy in Heaven one day. Sorry for your loss. ❤

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    3. Anon 3.52. So terribly sorry to hear of your loss. It’s very early days & you will no doubt be struggling to process all your feelings. The grieving will begin when your ready & remember there is no right & wrong to how you feel, just what is right for you. Remember many people here are thinking of you & keeping you in their thoughts & prayers.

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    4. I’m so sorry for you loss. 😢

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    6. I AM SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS. YOU WILL BE IN MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS. I TOO LOST A LITTLE BOY YEARS AGO. I KNOW THE PAIN YOU ARE GOING THROUGH. MY HEART IS BROKEN FOR YOU. MAY GOD BLESS AND KEEP YOU, COMFORT AND WRAP HIS ARMS AROUND YOU. ONE DAY WHEN YOU ARE READY, I PRAY YOU GET YOUR RAINBOW BABY.

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    7. So sad for your loss, 3:52. I've had 3 miscarriages and 3 pregnancies that were ok. I know the shock and sorrow you must be feeling. Just know that many of us suffer these terrible things. I'm sending you a very big cyber-hug.

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  8. How sweet and thoughtful of her sister in love to do that for Joy and Austin.

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  9. What a beautiful gift

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  10. Wow!!!! Jackson, has really hit, his teenage growth spurt. In this picture, Jackson, looks so much like his brother Jason, that I hardly recognized him. I also think that it was really sweet of Meagan, to get this necklace, for Joy-Anna, to remember Annabell by.

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  11. Do U guys know that if I ever had girl I was going to call her Annabell, I can't have kids, so I never was able to use it!!!!!!!! I love U Joy, U are a very strong person, and my heart goes out to U!!!!! Austin, I am sorry for U too, no one ever says anything to U, but I know U are in pain too!!!!!! I love U 4!!!!!!!

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    1. Annabell is a very sweet sounding name.

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  12. The necklace is lovely. This was certainly a tragic loss and Joy can keep this forever. I hope when they are blessed with another baby she does not do what Lauren did and have a reminder cake at the shower that says big sister. There is a season for everything, a time to mourn and a time to rejoice.

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    1. At Erin Bates Paine's baby shower, they did a balloon release in memory of her miscarried babies. The thing about their situations is that it is bittersweet to be celebrating one baby while mourning that they didn't get to have a baby shower for the others. It's kind of like having a rose at a wedding to symbolize a deceased family member. There is joy mingled with sadness, and it's ok.

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    2. I sometimes wonder if when a baby is lost to miscarriage if the parents feel guilt at celebrating the new baby without some sort of mention of the lost pregnancy. I find it odd to assign gender and a name to an embryo lost very early in pregnancy like Si and Lauren experienced. Joy and Austin’s loss was much later the gender was known and they had to deliver a fully formed baby a name was appropriate. It’s ok to move on from loss, no one will judge. I have know couple who have gone through early miscarriage four or five times, should they have named them and had a cake for each one of them when they have a successful pregnancy. It is ok to let go.

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    3. 11:14, I've known of a lot of women naming their miscarried babies, including myself. Miscarriage is a huge loss, and naming the baby is a comfort. Saying that it is ok to let go is insensitive and dismissive.

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    4. 11:14, it’s more so for your own healing and closure. My mom had three miscarriages, and we named all three babies, but no one has to do it if they don’t want to.

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  13. This is such a thoughtful loving gift. What a special thing to do for Joy and a wonderful remembrance for Joy to have. Eileen

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  14. Such a kind gift💜

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  15. A thoughtful gift. and Gideon is so happy

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  16. Its a very beautiful gift....

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  17. That's a lovely keepsake. It will be a dark time for Joy and Austin as the others give birth to their babies.

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    1. Maybe not so dark.....they trust in the Lord. Joy and Austin will happily celebrate their new nieces, hopefully they will choose to focus on the the new lives and the promises of God.

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    2. Even though they are genuinely happy for the other babies, their hearts will ache at the same time. It is a weird conundrum of feelings. I felt that way after my son, my first born child, was stillborn at 30 weeks. Faith plays such a huge part, but it doesn't completely eliminate the pain of the loss. It does, however, help you to live with it.

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    3. Anon 4:12. Even if they focus on the promises of God, that won't prevent them from having dark days or struggling with their loss. The grieving process is far more complex than you make it sound.

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  18. What a beautiful gift. Joy- Anna and Austin can cherish this memory of Annabelle for all their lives. God Bless all.
    Joan,Marion and Marilyn

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  19. Wow Jackson has grown up so much. I remember when he was just a little guy running around playing with his brothers. Boy oh boy the time is just flying by.

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  20. Did the Forsyths ever say what caused the stillbirth?

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    1. I would think that would be very personal....if they even know.

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    2. There is often not a known cause, especially when they have already had a viable pregnancy/birth

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    3. They didnt, but if you look at Annabelle’s ultrasound photos, you’ll notice a build up of fluid around her head and neck, which is an indicator of many genetic defects, such as Turner’s or Down’s syndrome.

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    4. 12:56 it is not your place to attempt to interpret an ultrasound photo a couple posts online, suggesting a diagnosis.

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    5. But if you're an ultrasound technician and you saw it, it is something you could have a valid opinion about. And I believe some UT's saw it and caught on immediately.

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    6. I agree it’s wrong to speculate on an ultrasound posted on the Internet. I remember the picture Joy posted & I would not dream of commenting on anything I thought I may have seen on the picture, it’s not my place to do so & ultimately any defect would have been brought to the attention of Joy & Austin by their
      Doctor, which clearly is what happened. No one needs to know the reason behind the sad loss of this beautiful baby, it’s very personal to the couple themselves & no one else’s business.

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    7. An ultrasound technician is who performs the scan....they are not fully qualified to read and interpret the image or provide diagnoses.

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    8. 4:12 Ultrasound technicians, or sonographers, are trained to operate ultrasound machines and take fetal measurements. Since they are not medical practitioners, they are not qualified to give medical diagnoses. No , they can not and should not provide an opinion, they are not skilled beyond taking the images.

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    9. My friend has done ultrasounds for years and we've talked about it a lot, especially after I've gone for a test myself. A sonographer is the first to know when something obvious is wrong during the test. They have to know the difference between normal and abnormal anatomy in all those shades of gray. They capture the necessary pictures the doctors then use. Do the sonographers tell the patient anything? No siree. Do they still see problems themselves on the screen? Yep, all the time. Could they comment on an ultrasound picture they saw online? Yes, since it's outside of work and on their private time. Show my friend an ultrasound image and she'll point out what looks wrong anatomically. I'd say she is definitely qualified to comment. Not diagnose, but comment on what doesn't look right from her standpoint.

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    10. 12:56 actually named a diagnosis....this is outside of their area of responsibility. We all know how the internet works a tech makes a guess or expresses an opinion and then people repeat it and embellish it....if they are wrong it becomes hurtful gossip.

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  21. On my goodness Gideon is so adorable!! He looks like he is a happy and fun loving little guy!! 😇

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  22. Such a thoughtful gift. Gideon's looks so happy.

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  23. Beautiful name, Annabelle Elise & the keepsake necklace a lovely gift for Joy. ❤

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  24. Jackson is all grown up, a true teenager & looks a little like Jill here! Gideon, so happy; lots of LOVE in this home & family! ❤

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  25. Jackson looks so skinny like he is underfed or something. He is 15 but looks like he is 12.

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    1. Maybe he doesn't want to eat tater tot casserole.

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  26. So sorry for your loss, I have also experienced loss of 2 children so I can relate to how you feel. Cherish memories and all good things will happen. I know because God gifted me with a beautiful little girl 30 years ago. I still remember the two babies I lost . But cherish the girl I have. It will happen for you with Gods help. Hugs

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