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Wednesday, October 17, 2018

Dillard Update

Derick Dillard law school
Derick Dillard, Israel Dillard, Samuel Dillard
 
Sam Dillard
Samuel Dillard
The Dillards are two months into Derick's law school education, and life has been busy. Between long days in class and late nights studying, Derick has been forced to spend more time away from his family than in past seasons of life.

To stay connected, Jill and Derick make regular date nights a priority, and they take advantage of opportunities to bond as a family whenever Derick's schedule allows. Sometimes that means bringing homemade food to the law school cafeteria so Jill and the boys can eat dinner with Papa during his study break.

Last month, Derick's brother and sister-in-law, Dan and Deena Dillard, welcomed a baby boy. Needless to say, Jill and Derick are thrilled for Israel and Samuel to have their first cousin on the Dillard side. 


Photos courtesy dillardfamily.com

120 comments:

  1. Do they know this is a three year program? I hope Derrick has the stamina to maintain without falling apart.

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    1. No,I'm sure he entered the program with no clue how long it takes. Who on earth would do that?

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    2. I think the OP means do they realize that it's going to be three years of having Daddy away at dinner time, so they'd better pace themselves before everyone burns out.

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    3. So, my son in law entered law school four years ago and graduated last May. He did so while still participating in life! Very much present with my daughter, their dog, fostered other pets, traveled and prepared for the wedding without missing a beat of studying and attending classes. Not say it’s easy; BUT thousands of law students make it happen without drama!

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    4. 5:33, there’s a difference between making time for pets and children.

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    5. Sorry. But I know of one lady who pushed herself though law school with 3 children and no parther. All whilst working full-time. Go figure.

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  2. With Jill taking care of the boys, Derick in law school, and them not on Counting On, I don't understand how they make money. Does he work, too? I know it's none of my business, but it's something that I'm sure others are wondering about too.

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    1. Some people get financial aid, scholarships, and school loans, help from family. But you are right, it is none of your business

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    2. Maybe her parents support them or they have savings from their time on the show. There might be some sort of trust fund set up for the children as they were all very young when filming started and they earned income as well!

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    3. I imagine they saved some of their Counting On paychecks and are living on that while Derick's in school.

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    4. Other busy bodies, you mean?

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    5. His law school costs about $16k a year -- very affordable, as law schools go. They can probably afford that with their Counting On money and Jill's 19 Kids money. I say good for him!

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    6. The op is asking a legit question. My husband works in systems maintenance at a huge automotive plant. He would love love love to get his engineering degree. With me as a stay at home mom and wife there is not anyway possible we can afford for him to quit working and go to school full time. Most people cannot swing this financially especially when children are involved and need financial support.

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    7. @ Unknown Many companies pay to put employees through school (or night school) in order to maintain good workers with degrees. I'm surprised that something as large as an automotive plant doesn't have this kind of program.

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    8. Anon 3:48...thank you for this idea. My husband works at general motors. I bet they do offer a program for engineering. It is worth checking on. Thanks again and God bless.

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    9. And Jim Bob was concerned about Jeremy was going to support Jinger.

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    10. I know a large company that wanted everyone in certain positions to hold 4 year degrees. Many already working there had military backgrounds, 2-year degrees, or some other level of unfinished college. So the company hired a university to run night courses designed specifically for these workers. Anyone who stuck with it earned their 4-year degrees at no cost to them, other than time. Even the computers and textbooks were supplied.

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  3. I completely understand fitting in date nights when it allows. When my husband was going back to school for his doctorate he too had long days at work at his full time job and late nights with classes and studying. At the time we had 5 children and it was hard to shoulder most of the parenting during that time but it was manageable. Our parents lived out of state and we had recently moved so I had no family or friend support. But honestly it wasn’t as bad as others made it out to be. One of my favorite things to do to spend extra time with my husband was to help him study after the kids were in bed. I would NEVER show up to his school and bring the kids with me bc I knew he needed that quiet time to study. On occasion he could get about 45 minutes away so I’d pack up our clan and meet him at the closest fast food joint to his school. I think Jill needs to quit being so clingy. There’s a time and place for family time and following your husband around like a lost puppy at school,sitting in on his classes, is NOT the best idea. If Derick is serious about law school and doesn’t quit, then he doesn’t need the distractions that Jill is creating... she needs to take this time to find her own personal interests. Perhaps go to school herself? Start a book club with other moms as she likes to read while her kids take a bath. She Doesn’t seem concerned a bit to take her eyes off the kids in water. Does she know a quick fall could cause a drowning or cause them swallow water and asperate?

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    1. Man she would never survive if he joined the military. My mom had to deal with moving to a new state, my dad deploying immediately after, taking care of a five and three year old, while pregnant, and giving birth without him. Then going through the death of her father during his second deployment (however he was able to return home for two weeks for the funeral, and dealing with the aftermath of that) The first time was back before Skype, she was able to talk to him TWICE during his year long deployment, there was no coming to eat with him at work, he was not home at night, etc. The second time we were able to talk on skype weekly, if we were lucky. Jill needs to grow up, she’s a married adult with two kids, find something productive to do during the day.

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    2. Good for you that you found a way to make it work for you and your family. Jill and Derick can decide what works best for them.

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    3. Jill has always been in a group- it seems she doesn't know what her interests are as a woman I'm not criticizing. I've always felt Jill was eager to please others but others never saw her light. I hope she does well.

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    4. So you commend yourself when you and your kids met your husband at a fast-food place when he takes a break for dinner, but you criticize and name-call at Jill when she and the kids meet him at school when he takes a break for dinner. If anything, meeting at school might be a more efficient use of his time. Shame on you.

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    5. Well. Jill grew up with siblings and I'm sure she knows what she's doing. :)

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    6. I don’t see where it says that Jill sits in on the classes.

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    7. "Sometimes that means bringing homemade food to the law school cafeteria so Jill and the boys can eat dinner with Papa during his study break."

      Jill and the kids join Derick for supper at the school. That's all it says here. How is that clingy? There is no mention here of sitting in on classes or following him around.

      There have been many times that I and my children brought food to my husband when he had work/school that required the kids going days without seeing him. My husband often studied at school/work because it was quieter than at home with young children.

      That is not being clingy. That is making life work for your family.

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    8. I think the comment about Jill going to see him is too harsh. Perhaps Derick prefers her to come to him to save him the travel time back and forth so he can see them for a few minutes. Perhaps Jill is being selfless by being the one to travel and bring the food so all Derick has to do is show up for a quick visit. What worked for you does not necessarily work for someone else.

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    9. my cousins 11 month old daughter fell face forward in the bath tub last year. Her 4 year old son was also in the tub. My cousin was right there, within arms reach. She was sitting close by checking Facebook on her phone, and heard a splash followed by her son saying uh oh! She looked up,her daughter was face down and she immediately grabbed her upright. She thought she was ok because her eyes were blinking and she tried to cough. But then could never catch a full breath. My cousin called 911 for help. What had happened in those 2-3 seconds of the baby falling and her head being submerged was that she tried to breath when she fell forward, face down. This caused water to get in her lungs and she later passed away due to complications. While situations like this are very very rare it is a stark reminder to always keep watch of your young children while they are bathing or near water of any kind. All it takes is one teaspoon of water to get in the lungs and they can drown. All it takes is 2 seconds to be distracted by books, the phone, every day distractions! Please tell Jill not to read books while her young children are in the bathtub. My sweet baby cousin, Matilda, could still be here today. Her parents will never be able to be the same.

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    10. There is no mention of Jill sitting in on classes in the above article but I have also read this previously & saw pictures of her going into a lecture with Derick, apparently she goes to help him take notes, so this is probably what the commenter means, like me she has probably read & seen pictures of Jill in class with Derick, which is nice in a supportive way but unless he has a disability he shouldn't not need a scribe helping him note take. I just find it very odd that the university even allows the presence of partners or anyone other than those doing the degree programme.

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    11. 2:28, I agree completely. As far as I know, the only time people who aren’t paying to take a course are allowed in is if they are auditing. I can’t believe the professor is ok with Jill showing up for class when she isn’t enrolled.

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    12. re comment by Fuzzyferet. If it's true that Jill is going to classes, that is very bizarre. In my med school, we had one girl's boyfriend attend one day and we all told him to get out and the professors were not impressed. If you are not a student, you do not attend. I know lots of people who went through law school in my circle of family and friends and have never ever heard of a spouse attending classes. While I commend Jill for showing up with food, that is just too bizarre for her to be in class unless she is also a student. I used to like this couple but their behaviour is unusual. And, yes, it is odd that you would be an accountant then go to a missionary school then to law. Not the actions of someone calm and settled. I hope they figure out their lives!

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    13. As a nurse & midwife with a doctorate part of my work is teaching nursing & midwifery students at university & I must say here in the UK this just would not be allowed & I'm glad to hear the responses from people in the states that also think this is strange, I did wonder if perhaps your rules & regulations were very different but I can tell by fellow posters that they are not & why Jill is attending lectures seems as odd to a lot of you as it does to me. I must be honest I would not allow anyone in my lectures unless they were registered on the course with the univerity.

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    14. If Derrick was having issues with note taking, many professors are ok with you recording the lecture, so long as you get permission

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    15. Lily and Ellie only posted a portion of Jill's and Derick's blog post on their website. It says in the full blog post that Jill did sit in on one of Derrick's classes.

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    16. Sitting in on one class is hardly the same as being clingy.

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  4. This is so great! Good job Derek.

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  5. Does Derrick live at the school? Most people go home and study there after classes end for the day.

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    1. He has to study in the library so he can access books there....plus in their apartment he doesnt have a separate room to study in

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    2. I highly doubt that

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    3. Maybe he doesn’t like being home.

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    4. I used the library a lot to study at my university.

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    5. There may be resource materials at the school that he uses, or he may be studying along with others.

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    6. With 2 young kids it would make sense to not try to study at home.

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    7. What if everyone brought their wives and kids?

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    8. To be fair on studying at the library, my son is in his 5th year of medical school & even when he comes home during his uni breaks he studies in our local university library as he is allowed to do this through a scheme the universities have with each other. My son has no small children distracting him at home just me to fuss over him, but he finds just being in his room with his tv & Xbox a distraction so takes himself to the library where he focuses better. Also it's a good way of disciplining himself & so far it has done him good finishing top of his year 3 years running. I can understand it would be difficult for anyone studying with 2 small children around & if he does not have a different room to study in as someone has suggested then it would be impossible. However as law is a long difficult course Derick needs to pace himself & not study too hard & burn himself out or become disillusioned with the course entirely & give it up. I gave my son the same advice when he started medical school as initially he was studying all day & well into the night & was making himself ill, if your intelligent enough to be admitted onto a course then you are intelligent enough to not overdo things.

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  6. It’s good to be kept up to speed with the Dillard’s. I think it is commendable of Derick to pursue a law career. I hope at some point Derick comes to realize that every human is made in God’s imagine, and it is not up to us to determine what that should look like. That is God’s responsibility not ours. And if we don’t agree with someone’s lifestyle, perhaps we should take it up with God as opposed to folks who watch tlc. I don’t think God wants us to hurt people’s feelings, no matter what. That being said, I admire Derick for going back to school. We are all lifelong learners.

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    1. It's so nice to see this tight knit little family. They enjoy family life and are working to improve themselves and take care of their children. They are doing great.

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    2. Have you read the Bible? I would encourage you to do so. The Bible confronts sin head on, and it is a false gospel that allows for one to remain in the old life and yet be a follower of Christ. We must take up our cross daily and follow Him.

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    3. I don't think Derick intended to hurt anyone; he was simply defending the Truth of God. Today in our society, if one states the truth on things, they're immediately billed a "hater." You are correct that God determines what we should look like. In Deuteronomy 22:5 of the Bible, for instance, He does just that, telling men that they should not dress like women and women like men, admonishing that He finds this offensive. Transgenderism does this. Also, God doesn't make mistakes. Whether we in this society today believe, falsely, that we can choose for ourselves what gender we desire to be, it does not change God's Truth for us: We are either male or female, as our Lord and Sovereign chose for us. Transgenderism is a disordered practice, according to God, and this is what Derick tried to point out. But because God's Truth is so often rejected in our society, it was basically a given that Derick was going to be fired from TLC for his faith. You are correct, though, that, even with disagreements amongst ourselves, we have a duty, as Christians, to be kind to our neighbor. I, myself, don't believe Derick was trying to harm or be malicious toward Jazz, the transgender youth. I don't think Derick is that kind of person.

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    4. 8:38- Are you saying it's your job as a follower of Christ to "confront" sin in others? It stands to reason in my mind that if people worried more about their own behavior and less about what consenting adults do, the world would be a much better place. Not everyone takes everything in the Bible literally, nor believes it to be inspired by God. Some of the people that I respect the most have nothing to do with organized religion of any kind.

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    5. Actually if society followed the teachings of the Bible and call out sin for what it is and stop being brainwashed by Hollywood, the media, and celebrities, the world would be a better place. I am sick of people complaining about christians not being loving we enough.

      It is actually Christians that are being the most loving and all around us, out actually see the social mess that has come from being 'not loving enough'

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    6. Well said 1:18! I totally agree with you.

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    7. 8:38, I am the original poster. It’s funny that you would say that to me about the Bible because I am a deacon of the church with a Masters Degree in Seminary Studies. So to answer your question, yes I have read and studied the Bible. Our denomination has struggled and struggled with this issue, trying to discern God’s will for us. I just think Derick could have handled his response to the issue better. Regardless of our opinions, and they surely differ in each denomination, the LGBTQ community members are God’s children, no more or less bound by original sin than we all are. We all need Christ to free us. I pray that we all remember this in our haste to pass judgement. We need Christ’s compassion as much as we need His wisdom.

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    8. Jesus himself said, "Go and sin no more."

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    9. I believe it is a dangerous thing to be your own god. (8:38 responding).

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    10. "He that is without sin among you, let him cast the first stone"

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    11. Well put, 12:27.

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    12. Anon 6:16 As a Deacon of a Church what exactly is your struggle with transgender, homosexual issues? You said you read the Bible and so how do you interpret Romans chapter 1. Do you struggle also with how to handle or wether to accept adultery, murder, stealing, etc., or are those sins clear as sins but this one you struggle with? Do you think it's helpful to take something that God calls an abomination and make it seem like God didn't make this specific sin clear? What exactly is that saying to the person caught up in this and how is that helping them? We all are sinful people but aren't you thankful that someone came along and told us about Salvation and then after being Saved when we sin we repent and then we turn from that sin. We don't embrace the sin, and defend the sin, but we turn from it. Why would there be a struggle in your mind and in your Church about this specific sin?

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    13. Continued, I believe what Derick said was unnecessary, but don’t try to quote one verse in scripture and leave out another critical part

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    14. To the Original poster's response, from a sister-in-Christ to a brother-in-Christ, we may be more on the same page than it seems. I do not believe in confronting a person's sin as my main way of communication with that person. When we get to know a person, personal topics and conversation are brought up on a natural basis. I believe in referring a person to the Word of God, as that is the only true way for us all to find Truth, grace, mercy, and fellowship with Christ through abiding in Him. The church is another place to find Truth because the Word of God is preached and taught there. I do not believe in a watered down gospel in the name of not hurting peoples' feelings. This would lead them to destruction and not life. God bless you all, and may we all seek the One who is Truth, Jesus Christ. (From 8:32).

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    15. Anon@3:25-Your own personal experiences with Christianity are not shared by everyone. Many people, including myself, have negative perceptions of most orgainized religion, because of the pervasive hypocrisy we've witnessed. BTW- The Duggars have doing business for a very long time with Hollywood and media, as well as some quite scandalous tabloids. That's the kind of double standard behavior that turns me off.

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    16. Well said Debbie.

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    17. Deacon, I noticed in both your posts that you never refer to transgender or homosexuality as a sin but an issue. You then challenge people to not make it our responsibility but to take it up with God. Where is the challenge to the homosexuals and transgender to stop committing an abomination by their lifestyle? So you have totally shifted the responsibility of this sin and then told Christians not to love and warn each other which God commands us to do, and then you challenge God by saying He needs to be responsible for this. God has defined transgender and homosexuality as an abomination and whether you or anyone else has a problem with that, that would not God's problem but your problem. There is nothing to take up with God, His truth is absolute. He said it is an abomination. He is God, we are not.

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    18. An abomination and a sin by someone's standards, maybe. But not everyone has those same standards. Some people say love is a wonderful thing, no matter where you find it. Why do you think it's OK then to impose your "absolute" Christian standards on them? Stick to your own standards for yourself and let others decide what's right for them. Live and let live.

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    19. It's not our job as Christians to confront the unsaved about their sins, but just to point them to Jesus and let Him handle it from there. If you are asked what is sin, then answer truthfully from Bible authority. If not, then you just show people the Gospel. God accepts people exactly how they are, and HE then works in their hearts to conform them to Jesus' likeness. The answer is different if you are dealing with sin in the church -- in which case Christians are instructed to confront it head-on.

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    20. 3:39- Aren’t you being confrontational when you attempt to point others to Jesus or show them the Bible? I do not understand evangelicals. We live in the Information Age, not the Dark Ages- anything anyone wants to know about religion or God can google, visit a library, or walk into any of the countless churches across the country to ask questions. Let people alone to worship, or not, as they please.

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    21. @11:10- You've been charged by a higher power to wan GLBT folks of their sin and "abomination"? Such sanctimony! They are not hurting you, nor want or expect your approval. They simply wish to be treated as human beings with respect and dignity. How about you accept the fact that your religious beliefs are just that- YOURS! Understand that a great many people do not take the Bible literally, nor believe it to be the inpsired word of God.

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    22. Anon 8:34 Ok first of all my statement you are coming after was to a Deacon who was saying that their Church "struggled and struggled" with how to deal with transgender and homosexuality issues. So like any person in the Church who is caught up in a sin we warn them just like we would want them to warn us. So unlike you, we do believe it is the Inspired Word of God. So how about you accept the fact that YOUR anything goes belief is your belief. Most of us that come on this blog are Christians and we have every right to express our Christian faith and beliefs. Question, are you going on Islam blogs and saying this, or is this anything goes attitude reserved just against Christian?

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    23. Derick already knows that every person is created in God's image just as he knows that God created male and female, down to the chromosomes.

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  7. He probably studies at school Bec his house has 2 little boys and it’s probably to distracting

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  8. I think it’s wonderful Derick is going to law school, and I’m unpleasantly surprised by some of the comments here. My husband and I both have advanced degrees and no one ever once asked us how we paid for them. It’s really none of our business how he is paying for school! And it’s going to be so important for Jill to be able to support him through this time; if she can bring the boys and they can eat dinner together, that’s great for them!!

    So glad to read an update on them... thanks for sharing! :)

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    1. I think they wonder about money because Jill doesn't work and law school comes with a full time schedule (I went to law school so I know about it) which means he isn't able to work while studying so then how can he support his family of 4 while going to school.

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    2. Lots of law school students do work while attending law school btw.

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    3. Jill and her sisters wrote a book a few years ago that did well.

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  9. Thank you so much for an update on Derick, Jill and boys - days turn to weeks, then months and yesrs - Derick will do a good job. I wish them all the best. Any word of adoption? - I know that was something they looked forward to.
    Again - best wishes to the Dillards.

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    1. That was something they mentioned like once a few years ago, and I seriously doubt they would pursue that while Derrick is in law school.

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  10. Samuel's such a cutie, looks like Jill's side of the family!

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  11. Oh thats nice! Sounds like things are going well.

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  12. God wants His name glorified no matter what. Speaking God's truth is top priority, regardless of feelings. Yes, we should do it with kindness and love because we all make mistakes, but not to the point of accepting sin.

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  13. I wonder if Derick is financing his own tuition, as well as supporting his wife and kids. Any "regular" family I know would be hard-pressed for one parent to start a very expensive law school venture without first having a substantial and steady income.
    I am also curious to know why he was not satisfied with being an accountant or a missionary. What does he hope to accomplish with a law degree? Like most of these updates, one is left with more questions than answers.

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    1. I thought about this. And truly, if he went into finacial or tax law, it would be a huge help his family and to the extended family. I dont know that he ever announced what form of law he was looking to practice. Though if I found out the above was true, it would fit with his previous degree as well.

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    2. They originally came together because they both had an interest in being missionaries. What happened to that?

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    3. Derick maybe becoming a lawyer so he can advocate for people wrongly exploited in South America - it would gel with his missionary calling.

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    4. They probably realize the TLC show won’t go on forever, and they will need to come up with other ways to support themselves and their large family. With money flowing in now with the show, they’re used to a certain lifestyle. I commend Derrick for thinking ahead to provide for his family. The other children should do the same. Get the degree when you’re young and full of energy; you’ll be thankful for it later!

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    5. 6:53- The Dillard's are not longer on the show, so there's likely no money flowing in from it.

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    6. 5:59, they said they won’t be returning to South America

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    7. Funny how people are behind Derick going to school, yet when college is discussed here, it often results in comments about how it's a waste of money and not for everyone.

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    8. Did the Dillards ever receive money from the show? Derick has said that they were only volunteers. Volunteers don't get paid but someone was getting the money. Something doesn't seem right about that.

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  14. I have to laugh every time I read 'season of life'it makes me think of an elderly person. Where I live we would say stage of life the Dillards are only in their twenties! Its just another one of those overused terms the Duggars seem to use.

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    1. The Duggar clan tends to use a lot of old fashioned terms. They "court" instead date, etc. I don't see it as either good or bad, just their "style"

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    2. Well, and used in this context it sounds as if Jill and Derick have been together a long time, which they haven’t. Like there haven’t been many “seasons of life” yet in their marriage.

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    3. It was the blogger who used the phrase here, not the Duggars.

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    4. that is one reason I have become very annoyed with Jill. After she was married she appeared to have all the answers , so to speak. Giving advice to newlyweds and new mothers when she was one herself. If one needs advice they should seek out a 'more seasoned' couple.

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  15. Gooo, Dillards!! Hang in there- the world could use principled lawyers. With Derrick’s background in accounting, perhaps corporate or business law has an appeal. They are a sweet family making their way. Maybe Jill can take her turn and pursue a degree after Derrick is settled in a firm.

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  16. Females wearing women's slacks, shorts or capris is NOT dressing 'like a man' as stated in the bible. Those clothing items are FOR women and are CUT PATTERNS for a woman's body.
    I find those passages in the bible strange because way back then when they were written, everyone wore cloaks; men AND woman. There were no pants for anyone or clothing that truly was distinctive. So, where do they get these 'skirts only' issues from? Not the bible, bot that man whose interpretations and social customs they follow, Bill Gothard….who, BTW, the Duggars have been VERY CAREFUL to NEVER MENTION publicly. I'm curious about that as to why....Bates too.

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    1. I don't know where the "no pants" dress code came from. In Biblical times men wore tunics or robes. Much like the way modern day Arabs dress.

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  17. The public is asking about the Dillards' paying for law school and how they are meeting their monthly bills because they themselves have made many public statements about their financial beliefs, not going in to debt no matter what, etc. This family has brought on those questions themselves which are quite logical to be asked. They really need to answer that question.

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    1. No they don't. Just because they have made statements regarding their financial beliefs does not mean that they have to share with everyone how they accomplish this. I find it extremely rude that people seem to think they have the right to know how they manage their obligations. Worry about your own finances and leave this family to do the same.

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    2. Also because they were asking for donations while going on missions ans while he was in "missionary school" in the last years so it makes you wonder where they dind the money to go to law school which is expensive

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    3. I'm not asking! I don't care how they're paying for Derick's law school, as long as I don't have to pay for it.LOL Pray that everything is good...Jane

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  18. If I was a law student trying to study, I’d be furious at someone bringing 2 little kids into the dining area to eat! As the wife of a lawyer, I NEVER took our child to school out of sheer respect for others! I’m shocked that the school allows it. I certainly hope Jill has better judgement during finals time!

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    1. People don’t generally eat in absolute silence. If Jill was taking them into the library, that might not be a good idea since most people study better in silence. It is completely appropriate to take them into the dining area. Children are allowed in restaurants and cafeterias. Those are public areas. If someone needs silence during meal times, he should take his food to a dorm room or quiet place. My son is a college student and just takes his food to his room when he needs queit. He doesn’t expect everyone else to cater to him.

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    2. A dining area is not a library; people should be able to socialize,talk and laugh in a dining area. The person needing to study should find a more appropriate location, like a library or even their own home. It is good and important for families to find a way to be together and what she did is more than appropriate. As well, I am sure Jill keeps her kids from acting out of control (that isn't appropriate anywhere!).

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    3. I think there should be no expectations for a dining room. The dining room, even at a University, is a place to take a break, grab a bite to eat and relax. If a student wants quiet to study, they need to go to the library. Also, not everyone needs silence to study; I actually study better with noise around me.

      Just my opinions.

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    4. They are in a dining hall, not the library.

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    5. Not all dining halls are the same. At my university, the artitectutre building had cuts and their own dining hall. You could hear a pin drop. It was a place to est while you studied. The colts were to sleep as noone went back to their dorms because every minute counted.

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    6. Some parents have no choice. Many schools offer daycare centers on campus. True this doesn't apply here but I have seen parents and kids visit family on their breaks

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    7. I never expected to see pre-school kids in my dining hall while in college. That would have been difficult to endure, for both the little kids and the big kids.

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    8. OP here. In my personal experience, the dining area is like a common area that connects directly to cooridors that lead to classrooms. If you talk loudly in the dining area, you can be heard down the hall by the classrooms. As I stated before, I would be furious if I was attempting to study and there were kids making lots of noise and distracting me.
      It is also important to note that dining areas at law school is typically different from undergrad. Not as many people, and definitely not as loud.
      Maybe my opinion is just different because I experienced this at a top 10 law school - so everyone was VERY focused on doing well!

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  19. What a great way to spend time with Daddy. After all he has to take a break and eat. They are doing what they can to make it work

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  20. The boys look handsome as always they are growing up so fast. Good to get updates on the Dillard family.

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  21. Happy to see an update on the Dillards. The boys are getting so big. They are handsome and are looking more alike.God Bless the Dillards. Miss them on Counting On.
    Joan,Marion and Marilyn

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  22. It does not say anything that Jill reads why her kids are in the bathtub.

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  23. No matter what Jill and Derrick do (or don't do), there will be haters.

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  24. Family time is good, but somehow I always thought that the cafeteria at a school was where the students and faculty ate not a play area for small kids with a soccer ball.

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  25. I attended college. When I went to the cafeteria to get something to eat and unwind from studying the last thing I would have wanted to encounter would be a couple of small children and their soccer ball. I have no reason to think the Duggars mean to be inconsiderate, but whenever they do something outside the family compound they come across as utterly oblivious to the impact their activities are having on other people at the venue.

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    1. I think the ball picture was taken in their house. They've shown that carpet before. But you're right, nobody needs to encounter little kids in a college cafeteria. All the Duggars must remember to respect others' space and peace and quiet when in public.

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  26. At least Jill supports Darrick in his educational pursuits. So what if she meets him with the boys in the cafeteria. Any school cafeteria I have been in is receptive to children. I bet they aren’t the only kids there. And I’m sure Jill keeps them in line.

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    1. Being supportive of your spouse is fine, but Jill reminds me of those "helicopter" parents who had to be ordered to leave my daughter's college campus by 7:00 p.m. on Freshman Orientation move in day. lol

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