tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post3797481829505524107..comments2024-03-18T20:23:03.969-05:00Comments on Duggar Family Blog: Duggar Updates | Duggar Pictures | Jim Bob and Michelle | Counting On | 19 Kids: Joe and Kendra Celebrate 2 YearsLily and Elliehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00941253435533935093noreply@blogger.comBlogger106125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-42619830969132574792019-09-21T22:11:55.696-05:002019-09-21T22:11:55.696-05:00I kind of hate to say this because I really would ...I kind of hate to say this because I really would like to believe that Joe & Kendra are always the happy, smiling, lovey-dovey couple. But it's been my experience (going on 52 years and 28 years of marriage) that the couples who always seem to be/appear that way, often aren't. I'm not saying Joe & Kendra aren't happy or aren't in love. I'm just saying that if they're always that smiling sweetly and always lovey-dovey when they're with others, then one or both of them aren't honestly dealing with the normal issues when two people become as one. It's both a beautiful and messy process, as two people do the work of laying down what each wants in favoring of doing what's best for the other...and it's not all smiles, giggles, and adoring glances. It's ironing out miscommunications and adjusting unrealistic (sometimes selfish) expectations. They're just beginning and they haven't had to face any real challenges yet. Let's just let them grow and mature as couple. I kind of hate that whenever most fans talk about a Duggar lady or Duggar bride, they always seem to lead off with how they look physically. I wish we could somehow go beyond that and see what she's actually made of. God himself, said it best through Solomon, "Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears (honors, respects) the Lord is to be praised.". There are lots of pretty/beautiful girls in the world (and even in Christian circles) who really aren't so pretty, beautiful, or admirable. I'm not saying Kendra's like that, only that we shouldn't use that attribute as any kind of measuring stick. It's pretty clear that these young ladies spend quite a bit of time on their appearance.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-81096636742027630672019-09-17T07:16:36.734-05:002019-09-17T07:16:36.734-05:00Most people, if they have that stuff, have paid fo...Most people, if they have that stuff, have paid for it themselves, too. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-72566095986374426522019-09-16T21:32:51.418-05:002019-09-16T21:32:51.418-05:00I think a lot of commenters are just pointing out ...I think a lot of commenters are just pointing out that the Duggars can live the lifestyle they're advocating primarily because of TLC money. Yes, Jim Bob and Michelle had some business investments going before TLC, but the family was crammed into a 1000-1500 sq. ft house they rented and their daily life, by their own admission on the initial "!4 Kids and Counting" episodes, was chaotic. I think the concern is that they've been given quite a few platforms (from TLC and IBLP/ATI)to promote their lifestyle and parenting advice, but the vast majority of impressionable audience members don't have the same financial set-up. Nor do most large/exceedingly larger than normal families have people outside their family to come in and help with the laundry or help home school their children on a daily basis, or people outside their family come in to live with them to help them with their children. Very few large/exceedingly large families can afford all the vacations, spa trips, trips to Magnolia, amusement park trips, IBLP Family Conferences and camps, ATI sessions, continual round of parties/baby showers/over the top engagements and gender reveals, 1000+ guest weddings, and world honeymoons. Most young mothers with large/exceedingly large families don't have access to those resources (monetarily or people-wise) or have the huge, well-furnished home complete with multiple custom buses or commercial passenger vans. I think that's what many commenters are concerned about.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-64136265625332430562019-09-16T21:18:48.169-05:002019-09-16T21:18:48.169-05:00Why does having a strong relationship with God pre...Why does having a strong relationship with God preclude being well-educated? Why can't a young lady be both? God uses well-educated people too. LOL I hate to tell you, but Jesus was well-educated. He couldn't use his "God-ness". He had to work His way through Hebrew schooling, in order to know the frustration we experience in trying to learn, in order to be our perfect His Priest. He had to experience frustration, bullying, injustice, rejection, loss, injury, pain, death, separation-all the things we experience. We all know the Proverbs 31 is well-educated. She's running her household well, knows not only her children's hearts and needs, but those of her servant girls as well and she values them-she takes care of their needs before her own. She's running a business, and buying real estate on her own...and her husband highly respects and honors his very capable wife.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-29126883127371799852019-09-15T18:42:41.561-05:002019-09-15T18:42:41.561-05:004:08, I never said woman should be obligated to do...4:08, I never said woman should be obligated to do housework. I was just saying that if the man is the only one working hard to make money then the burden of housework should absolutely be on the woman. Or If the woman is the only one working then the burden of housework should be on the man. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-86892780760828274302019-09-14T14:48:44.019-05:002019-09-14T14:48:44.019-05:00Wow looks like the liberals have taken over this b...Wow looks like the liberals have taken over this blog. Hmmm well played liberals, well played.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-14187510915759999452019-09-14T14:22:26.842-05:002019-09-14T14:22:26.842-05:00If I remember my Bible correctly, when Jesus walke...If I remember my Bible correctly, when Jesus walked this earth, He "hung out" with sinners, helped a prostitute and saved a woman from stoning. He "lectured" the rich folks who looked down at the poor/needy. I believe if He were an actual body on this earth today, He would do the same. Just saying................Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-54268144054773434432019-09-13T23:52:25.713-05:002019-09-13T23:52:25.713-05:00People seem to like to come here to find things to...People seem to like to come here to find things to pick on. It ruins the fun for the rest of us when people are SO picky about things like bows in a baby's hair, etc. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-78687506570333799072019-09-13T04:04:46.530-05:002019-09-13T04:04:46.530-05:009/11@8:10: How could you think that a liberal mind...9/11@8:10: How could you think that a liberal minded person hates God? That is a blanket insult to all who believe that there is nothing 'wrong' with going to a school, wearing pants and a woman having a paying job outside of her own family. I'm surprised that a silly comment such as this one passed the screening and was posted. Really, now. Gracienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-91735468594780563682019-09-12T20:14:07.379-05:002019-09-12T20:14:07.379-05:00I am devout Christian but I went to university and...I am devout Christian but I went to university and work full time. It is ok to question politely why people make certain choices. Yes, Kendra will likely be fine but the reality is that most women should have some education to be able to provide for their family financially if the husband cannot. Women who cannot qualify for more than a minimum wage job run a risk of always depending on someone else. I have met many women in their 80s who have always been just fine with their husband but most of us know women who have NOT been fine and that is why some people comment about Kendra's lack of education.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-11604655897557703482019-09-12T20:10:23.730-05:002019-09-12T20:10:23.730-05:00I have several friends whose families are original...I have several friends whose families are originally from India. In their culture, the women must go to university and have a degree in order to marry well as many men will not marry a woman without a high level of education. The woman then never works but she is expected to be intelligent and prove her academics in order to be deemed to be a good wife and mother.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-7132129864244284742019-09-12T19:01:37.589-05:002019-09-12T19:01:37.589-05:00Comments like this-- why would anyone want to be a...Comments like this-- why would anyone want to be a Christian?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-57296404852203696702019-09-12T18:12:57.133-05:002019-09-12T18:12:57.133-05:00Oh dear, didn't realize we needed to show vote...Oh dear, didn't realize we needed to show voter registration cards here before posting. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-6555997835052054252019-09-12T16:08:01.163-05:002019-09-12T16:08:01.163-05:00@9:12- Nothing wrong with the husband staying hom...@9:12- Nothing wrong with the husband staying home and taking care of the kids and doing all the housework, while the wife has a career to support the family. Some women hate keeping house and shouldn't feel obligated to be the one responsible for it. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-63260103455915582872019-09-12T14:59:04.090-05:002019-09-12T14:59:04.090-05:00I can understand your sentiments entirely. I too, ...I can understand your sentiments entirely. I too, used to feel the same way. Wishing that I could be from a family that raised me to seek marriage young, like these girls. I too know the frustration of being tossed out into the world and having to make such decisions. I've learned greater acceptance of the path God laid out for me. He led me every step of the way. I regret not having responded in greater obedience. My only advice for a girl like me is choose the path of love no matter where it leads. <br /><br />I still remember in my 10th grade English class, learning about the world on a whole new level and thinking, "why can't I go back and live on a farm in 16th century Europe where I didn't have to face all this? In my early 20s, the Duggars came out with their show. I remember how torn I felt over the extremes of modern feminism that I saw on my college campus, and the very conservative lifestyles of the Duggars and the Caldwells. I have since reconciled, finding the balance. <br /><br />I also came from a very broken family myself. I used to be so jealous of girls like that, who came from families that raised them and prepared them well for marriage. I've since learned to let God love me for me. I'm no longer jealous. We each have our own path, and God can use what I went through for good. He can love the broken pieces back into a cohesive whole. <br />Lilahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12525568228991995338noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-9719748939178464912019-09-12T10:18:27.388-05:002019-09-12T10:18:27.388-05:00Actually, someone with a strong relationship with ...Actually, someone with a strong relationship with God is far better able to handle the challenges we face in the world. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-91541174884032030342019-09-12T07:42:37.480-05:002019-09-12T07:42:37.480-05:00I think some of the commenters here are forgetting...I think some of the commenters here are forgetting that the Duggars embrace a patriarchal relgious system. Women are taught that they have their place, which is in the home being a wife and mother. The man is the head of things, that's why the daughters don't leave home until they get married and also why they've never had any opportunities to live on their own or have a regular job. If you've grown up in this culture, you've not had an opportunity to really think for yourself or believe anything different. It's hard to say if these young women are making these domestic choices for themselves, or if they're simply doing what's expected of them. I think JimBob has a very tight rein on things, which is sad when you consider that a good share of them are now adults. Keeping everything in the family is not always so <br />wonderful. I think the Vuolo's made a wise decision to distance themselves. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-87905947499679656032019-09-11T23:37:46.008-05:002019-09-11T23:37:46.008-05:009/11 @ 9:34 - michelle mentioned very early on in ...9/11 @ 9:34 - michelle mentioned very early on in the show (19k&c) that while doing the laundry, she was so overwhelmed with everything she had a breakdown and cried and prayed. soon after, her prayers were answered when a good friend offered to help her with the laundry and continued to do so for several years before grandma mary helped out with itAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-58201829789193217702019-09-11T21:12:37.569-05:002019-09-11T21:12:37.569-05:007:36, well if the wife is not working and bringing...7:36, well if the wife is not working and bringing home the money then yes all the burden of housework has to be in her. But if both the husband and wife work then housework should be a joint effort. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-76736603593577003242019-09-11T20:10:05.378-05:002019-09-11T20:10:05.378-05:00Why do you crazy liberals post negative t on this ...Why do you crazy liberals post negative t on this blog and the Bates blog constantly. You hate the Duggar’s and their way of like I get it. You hate God and all Christian values. Stop ruining this blog for people who truly love these families Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-56270638405165607342019-09-11T20:07:49.402-05:002019-09-11T20:07:49.402-05:00Please - no “mom-shaming.” To be a working mom or...Please - no “mom-shaming.” To be a working mom or stay-at-home mom is a very personal decision with lots to factor in. We women need to stick together and support and respect one another’s decisions. It’s all good!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-51650821812058143752019-09-11T19:58:21.914-05:002019-09-11T19:58:21.914-05:009:34- Michelle tells about it in conferences. She ...9:34- Michelle tells about it in conferences. She once broke down in the laundry room because she was extremely overwhelmed with taking care of so many kids. After the episode she decided to get help and found an elderly woman to do her laundry for her Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-39135981644863812762019-09-11T18:47:05.604-05:002019-09-11T18:47:05.604-05:00We all do lots of things we don't want to do. ...We all do lots of things we don't want to do. Some people value education and think it's important to understand the world around us. A well-educated person, with a strong grounding in the sciences and liberal arts, is far better able to handle the challenges we face in the world. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-39147514136751902822019-09-11T16:05:09.254-05:002019-09-11T16:05:09.254-05:00@Kris I'd like to know what difference it mak...@Kris I'd like to know what difference it makes to you who's married to whom. How is that negatively impacting your life? Or do you choose to be upset because you simply don't like seeing it or it scares you somehow? "The Bible says so" is not the answer. The Bible says a lot of things that we wouldn't dare do in today's society. People seem to forget about those other things the Bible commands you to do or not to do.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-31055506329817883522019-09-11T15:43:06.251-05:002019-09-11T15:43:06.251-05:00Anon 11.10. I’m in the UK & Iv only ever heard...Anon 11.10. I’m in the UK & Iv only ever heard it used once before & think it’s beautiful, so unusual & special.Fuzzyferetnoreply@blogger.com