tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post2761066322696838933..comments2024-03-28T02:22:59.764-05:00Comments on Duggar Family Blog: Duggar Updates | Duggar Pictures | Jim Bob and Michelle | Counting On | 19 Kids: New Photos of Joy and AustinLily and Elliehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00941253435533935093noreply@blogger.comBlogger134125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-67477852023190402352017-03-28T22:18:07.608-05:002017-03-28T22:18:07.608-05:00Congratulations Joy and Austin! I hope you have a ...Congratulations Joy and Austin! I hope you have a beautiful adventure together and many happy days in your marriage.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-55784677365135363112017-03-28T22:16:39.987-05:002017-03-28T22:16:39.987-05:00I don't know. Our Pastor had just gone through...I don't know. Our Pastor had just gone through a series on Jewish weddings and wedding feasts, along with a well-known Messianic Jewish speaker, when we planned our wedding. So, we planned with the idea in mind that we were hosting a celebration for our guests. My mom, having helped at a lot of weddings/showers was instrumental in walking me through venue, weather, seating, etiquette, and appropriate crowd-size food options. We were never allowed to make it all about us in our household. Having witnessed more than one display of Bride drama in our friend circle, we didn't want to go there. Likewise, having waited at receptions for an hour or more for the couple to take pictures, we cut our cake first and invited everyone to eat while we took our pictures. Bottom line: You're the host and you've essentially invited all these people to your home. Be mindful of their needs, be considerate, feed them sensibly. You don't have to go into hock with a catered meal, but a well thought out menu says I am glad you're here to share our day.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-43685368224510671542017-03-28T18:48:12.049-05:002017-03-28T18:48:12.049-05:00If I had to choose between inviting more people a...If I had to choose between inviting more people and having a less formal event or excluding people in order to feed the guests a full meal, I wouldn't have to think twice. The right decision, IMO, is to include everyone who would enjoy being part of this once-in-a-lifetime union and trust they would not be self-centered enough to think it was about the dinner (or lack of). <br /><br />Why in the world would you expect to have a full meal at a wedding that didn't hit around meal time? I had a full meal at my wedding, and the interesting thing is, I made that choice because it actually ended up being cheaper than my first preference, which was hors d'oeuvres and desserts. I envisioned something indoors and formal, but ended up having everyone bring their own lawn chair for seating, all of my great-uncles grilled awesome Wisconsin brats, and the entire group of guests spent the afternoon visiting, taking canoe rides, playing golf, and ended the day around a bonfire with of family and friends bluegrass jam session. <br />It wasn't even close to the wedding I envisioned when I got engaged, but it ended up being the most relaxing and enjoyable day ever. Everyone had a blast, it totally fit our personalities, and the best part? When it was all said and done, we were married and had no debt. My parents never stressed during the wedding preparations, there was no drama, and it truly reflected who we were as a couple. It was tempting to try to compete with all of the current trendy couples getting married around the same time, but we couldn't justify spending money just to impress people, and it didn't feel right not to be true to who we were, anyway. I suppose that whole picture seems ridiculous to many of you, as you are likely the same folks criticizing Joy and Austin's, well, everything. <br /><br />Here is an idea for those of you who pride yourself on being tolerant: actually try being tolerant. Even when you don't agree. It's not true tolerance when you only show kindness and acceptance towards the ideas and people you understand, agree with, or like already. ...and to those of you who feel like some sort of rule of etiquette was breached with the root beer parking lot reception - think for a minute and see if you can tell me who made those rules of etiquette and why exactly we are required to follow them. My standard is the Bible, not Emily Post. Consider loosening up a bit on what you consider proper. Did God said those expectations, or the American public? You will enjoy people, and life, a whole lot more if you can learn to let people be who they feel they should be and set down your bag of complaints.<br /><br />Elizabethnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-88187207677902894562017-03-28T15:05:21.589-05:002017-03-28T15:05:21.589-05:00That is so cuteThat is so cuteAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-76878331347163550782017-03-28T10:37:04.679-05:002017-03-28T10:37:04.679-05:00Elizabeth, I agree with everything you said. Ever...Elizabeth, I agree with everything you said. Everyone has different opinions and different likes and dislikes. Why do we feel the need to critique everything? It would certainly be crazy to provide a sit down meal for so many people and a complete waste of money. In my opinion no one should offer a meal at their wedding. You should be going to a wedding to see people you care about join their lives together not to eat. I have seen too many couples focus too much time and money on the wedding and not the relationship and how they will bring their lives together after marriage.<br /><br />You can call it cheap or frugal. It is your opinion. The only opinion that matters is the couple who are marrying. I don't see you offering to pay for a fancy reception for them. If they wanted something simple, good for them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-60329253135502941282017-03-28T06:48:42.449-05:002017-03-28T06:48:42.449-05:00Of course, people should not have an extravagant w...Of course, people should not have an extravagant wedding they cannot afford. However, perhaps the guest list should be limited or there should be a private ceremony if you are not willing to provide a comfortable venue or something other than snacks. The couple should be respectful of the people they invite. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-64229021336863464232017-03-27T23:29:37.698-05:002017-03-27T23:29:37.698-05:00I've been to those brutally hot weddings held ...I've been to those brutally hot weddings held in open fields in July or August with not one spot of shade anywhere (but plenty of wasps and bees attracted to the flowers near the chairs). I've been to an outdoor wedding in March (!) where everyone was freezing, especially the bridesmaids in their strapless gowns. It was pitiful. Is that what you want people to remember from your wedding? <br /><br />I don't understand why brides are allowed to plan things that way. Doesn't some family member speak up during the planning stage and say, "Are you kidding?!" When I heard that Jessa was having an outdoor reception, in November, with ice cream, I thought here we go again...... Giving your guests "cute" decorated paper fans (so they can fan themselves while feeling faint?) or renting a few propane heaters for the parking lot does not make up for poor planning and as you say, selfishness. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-35240732237918624872017-03-27T22:30:21.307-05:002017-03-27T22:30:21.307-05:00She said herself that was just a working date, so ...She said herself that was just a working date, so they could do things like register, may have nothing to do with the actual date, that was from Joy herself ! <br />Juliannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11838500838503713344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-63824450544365832272017-03-27T21:07:14.040-05:002017-03-27T21:07:14.040-05:00Weddings and Receptions-to each his /her own. :) I...Weddings and Receptions-to each his /her own. :) I will say though that many elderly guests cannot take the heat of a summertime parking lot reception. Four years ago, we were guests at an outdoor Bridal Shower. Although it was 104 degrees in the shade of the picnic shelter (no kidding), they opted to go ahead with it. It was absolutely miserable for all the guests attending, especially the older family members who suffered through it not wanting to "spoil" things by leaving. Several guests were physically ill by the time it was over. While it is "your day", the Bride and Groom as the hosts, should be considerate of their guests. "Your Day" shouldn't selfishly mean "Your Way". Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-22586029311934783492017-03-27T18:58:47.762-05:002017-03-27T18:58:47.762-05:00That parking lot reception wasn't frugal, it w...That parking lot reception wasn't frugal, it was downright cheap. There's a difference.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-38493068831508389952017-03-27T18:55:33.561-05:002017-03-27T18:55:33.561-05:00It doesn't take much detective work. The Dugg...It doesn't take much detective work. The Duggars put it all out there for everyone to see. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-15080316601276523672017-03-27T18:22:22.129-05:002017-03-27T18:22:22.129-05:00Please stop trying to say that people are "je...Please stop trying to say that people are "jealous" if they post an opposing viewpoint here. The only people I've ever seen here who would even remotely qualify as "jealous" (which really isn't a nice word) are those who say flat out that they wish they were part of the family. For all others, "jealousy" is not any motive for what they say. So please stop thinking that, and posting it. It sounds very "school yard" and juvenile.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-64425963496730702562017-03-27T14:02:45.612-05:002017-03-27T14:02:45.612-05:00Who would spend their hard-earned money sending a ...Who would spend their hard-earned money sending a gift if you're not invited to the wedding? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-5921734778932987012017-03-26T23:14:57.020-05:002017-03-26T23:14:57.020-05:00Agreed, anon8:43. Agreed, anon8:43. Elizabethnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-24655477131192496612017-03-26T23:12:08.038-05:002017-03-26T23:12:08.038-05:00Hey, anon9:40, Peter Pan collars are all the rage ...Hey, anon9:40, Peter Pan collars are all the rage right now. :) They're back in.Elizabethnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-51967148359537987842017-03-26T23:08:46.916-05:002017-03-26T23:08:46.916-05:00That WAS rude. I don't always love an outfit I...That WAS rude. I don't always love an outfit I see but I don't need to insult the person wearing it with a snarky comment. And thinking someone's "opinion" is rude (and saying so) doesn't mean they were offended, so it would do you well not to assume so. I've told people in person that something they said was uncalled for but I don't ever remember being offended. Just noticed their lack of manners and kindness and share my opinion on it. Oh, wait... are we allowed to do that, too? Share our opionions? You know, those of us who support the Duggars? Or is that a privilege strictly reserved for strategically placed blog trolls?<br /><br /><br />Elizabethnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-9919511977091212252017-03-26T22:57:04.435-05:002017-03-26T22:57:04.435-05:00...and if they had a formal dinner at a five star ......and if they had a formal dinner at a five star hotel ballroom and spent $5,000+ on a cake (the nonsense that has become the norm), people would say they were hypocrites for abandoning their stance on frugality. They can't win. <br /><br />Also, isn't a wedding supposed to reflect who the bride and groom ARE? It seems many people feel a wedding is the one day they get to pretend to be everything they wish they were, hosting the kind of event they can't afford and breaking the bank to do it.... feeling limited by available and traditional options for clothing, food, etc.... So ridiculous. I love that each Duggar couple felt the freedom to make their wedding their OWN. Too many young couples start out their marriages unwisely spending their own (or their parents') money trying to meet the arbitrary expectations of a superficial society. Hooray for parking lot receptions and the down-to-earth families who host them! Elizabethnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-4017624043848182712017-03-26T19:16:34.736-05:002017-03-26T19:16:34.736-05:00These girls can dress how they want. Nobody SHOULD...These girls can dress how they want. Nobody SHOULD tell anyone how they should dress.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-5417617624586128622017-03-26T19:15:33.652-05:002017-03-26T19:15:33.652-05:00No, they wasn't.No, they wasn't.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-15802654483628916432017-03-26T19:15:21.173-05:002017-03-26T19:15:21.173-05:00Exactly!Exactly!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-34203774296649419792017-03-26T19:15:08.119-05:002017-03-26T19:15:08.119-05:00Her birthday is in OctoberHer birthday is in OctoberAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-81946249316329466032017-03-26T19:13:12.741-05:002017-03-26T19:13:12.741-05:00Wow, look who's jealous. If fans want to buy t...Wow, look who's jealous. If fans want to buy them gifts, that's up to them. Not you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-67669769706393766442017-03-26T19:12:23.958-05:002017-03-26T19:12:23.958-05:00It's fake, some troll did that.It's fake, some troll did that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-69953340887638176682017-03-26T17:16:47.514-05:002017-03-26T17:16:47.514-05:00Obtaining professional medical training, expertis...Obtaining professional medical training, expertise in building infrastructure, or agricultural education would go a long way towards helping those in need. This should be the first priority of any 'mission', not handing out religious tracts and Bibles.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-28967034331600434332017-03-26T17:09:05.929-05:002017-03-26T17:09:05.929-05:002:05- JB and Michelle may not have relied on ou...2:05- JB and Michelle may not have relied on outside daycare, but they've had to rely on the older children to be live-in babysitters and tutors. Whether or not the Duggar daughters have a choice in whether or not they will be full time homemakers or not, is a matter of conjecture. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com