tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post6277429412384478170..comments2024-03-28T13:07:29.105-05:00Comments on Duggar Family Blog: Duggar Updates | Duggar Pictures | Jim Bob and Michelle | Counting On | 19 Kids: Seewalds on AdoptionLily and Elliehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00941253435533935093noreply@blogger.comBlogger62125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-36587896891409914932017-07-16T22:58:59.615-05:002017-07-16T22:58:59.615-05:00They can only adopt family. No judge would approve...They can only adopt family. No judge would approve any other adoption because of the number of children they already have. Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03588395572203016231noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-76874979586657118102016-08-30T14:34:20.670-05:002016-08-30T14:34:20.670-05:00This is such a good comment. Very wise.This is such a good comment. Very wise.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-49022613969976283892016-08-30T02:19:29.785-05:002016-08-30T02:19:29.785-05:00They didn't say they would definitely adopt. T...They didn't say they would definitely adopt. They said they were praying about it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-3196728366931009482016-08-29T17:04:50.105-05:002016-08-29T17:04:50.105-05:00As the mother of 3 children, two biological and on...As the mother of 3 children, two biological and one through adoption, the best advice I can give you is wait. Wait 10 years until you are in your 30's. Wait until you career is established. Wait until you have experienced more in life and have stood by your spouse in hard times that have shaken your faith. Wait until you have met more people with life experiences different then your own so that you can relate to a potential birth family better. <br /><br />We married young, 20 and 22. We struggled with infertility and were told that we could never conceive. God had a different plan for our lives and we were blessed with 2 biological children. After our youngest tuned 5, we started to feel a strong pull on our hearts to love another child. We could no longer conceive so we pursued adoption. Our daughter's birth mom contacted us about her daughter about 6 months after we completed our home study. She was born at 24 weeks and has many medical and special needs. However, we had enough life experiences and resources that we knew we could say yes. We were not ready in our 20's to take on a child with special needs. However, there is no doubt in our minds that we were to say yes to our daughter. Things will come in the right time. Susan Grahamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09732330135391043032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-6522320308197132972016-08-29T15:10:04.855-05:002016-08-29T15:10:04.855-05:00I agree even the younger one has been working on a...I agree even the younger one has been working on a cdl drivers license forever. You can still have the Lord in your soul and get a education / trade and a real job. Look at Ellie and mr wonderful they are good examples. Sadly we are not shown any of these adult kids being able to fend for themselves without Tlc. Tlc inmho has become a immoral channel. I thought homeschooling would make them immune to the generational lack of commitment to being independent but sadly it has not. The kids were so cute growing up it is sad to see.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-75985244249704988842016-08-29T13:12:23.121-05:002016-08-29T13:12:23.121-05:00*Jessa is 23, she'll be 24 in November*Jessa is 23, she'll be 24 in NovemberAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-77693300063983467102016-08-29T02:12:15.336-05:002016-08-29T02:12:15.336-05:00I have said the very same comment as you quite oft...I have said the very same comment as you quite often.I know there are plenty of others like us who feel the exact same way.Blessings😉Seriously though...why are they here? I certainly don't venture on sites of folks I don't really care for and then say rude comments or negative opinions about people they like...its just a form a bullying...and that is sad sad☹Life is to short to be angry and mad.nataliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11022542071856550329noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-16883721989502925772016-08-28T16:12:28.312-05:002016-08-28T16:12:28.312-05:00I totally agree. I also think it is selfish to ad...I totally agree. I also think it is selfish to adopt when you already have children of your own and many people who adopt can't have kids of there own. Now if they wanted to adopt an older child or a child with special needs that would be okay. But I assume they want to adopt a baby. They are wasting the avenues time as well as their own.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-17944492794767640782016-08-28T15:45:35.260-05:002016-08-28T15:45:35.260-05:00I agree with many of the above comments. Michelle...I agree with many of the above comments. Michelle has talked about adoption for years now the girls are following suit. Nothing will come of it. <br />It would be nice to see Ben following through on any of his mentioned career plans such as ministry education. He seems like a typical directionless millennial. I am not sure if tlc is feeding them script but if so they better come up with better writers. The family does not come across as real genuine anymore. I really enjoyed the show when the kids were growing up, Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-78436185814734854822016-08-27T20:32:49.689-05:002016-08-27T20:32:49.689-05:00I love your comment, MamiaS. You've got it ri...I love your comment, MamiaS. You've got it right!Carolyn Nelsonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-31054552199285164372016-08-27T20:30:52.210-05:002016-08-27T20:30:52.210-05:00My idea on that is when God is ready to place an a...My idea on that is when God is ready to place an adopted child in a family...He makes the way and smoothes the path.Carolyn Nelsonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-20189357974697799942016-08-27T20:27:20.505-05:002016-08-27T20:27:20.505-05:00I had older parents but my bloodline was different...I had older parents but my bloodline was different from my parents. We didn't care. We just loved and liked each other. My brothers were 13 and 15 years older than I so they were off to the military and college by the time I was 2 years old.Carolyn Nelsonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-46344876392896983432016-08-27T19:29:21.658-05:002016-08-27T19:29:21.658-05:00Please do not spread misinformation. Not all adopt...Please do not spread misinformation. Not all adopted children develop RAD. Your description of it is not even accurate, or at least not complete. A child adopted and cared for birth will not develop RAD. I think you are trying to be helpful, but you really need to do your homework before posting inaccurate information. <br />https://medlineplus.gov/ency/article/001547.htm<br />http://www.aacap.org/App_Themes/AACAP/docs/facts_for_families/85_reactive_attachment_disorder.pdfAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-3076731858435924122016-08-27T16:29:27.624-05:002016-08-27T16:29:27.624-05:00Adoption isn't JUST a Plan B. In other words,...Adoption isn't JUST a Plan B. In other words, adoption isn't just for people who can't have their own children naturally. Do you have any idea how many orphans there are in the world? If the only people who tried to adopt were people who couldn't have their own children naturally, there would still be a ton of orphans! God calls people to adopt, regardless of whether or not they can have their own children. How unfair is it of you to criticize someone for wanting to adopt when God placed that desire on their heart!!!<br /><br />"Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world." James 1:27 (NIV)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-38162579754845466122016-08-27T15:38:24.672-05:002016-08-27T15:38:24.672-05:00I love Jessa and Ben! Theyre incredibly mature for...I love Jessa and Ben! Theyre incredibly mature for their ages (remember they're only 21 and 22!) and theyre really wonderful people. I think the dream in their hearts to adopt is a good dream but it's possible (and probably for the best) that these dreams don't come to fruition for another decade or two. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-21765577023507876092016-08-27T11:43:41.714-05:002016-08-27T11:43:41.714-05:00Of course it was real! This show was three months ...Of course it was real! This show was three months ago, so they may not have known that they were pregnant at this point. Even people who don't use birth control can naturally wait two years between pregnancies. I think Jessa is still breastfeeeding and that does often space out the births. But God gave them a special surprise. Maybe wasn't what they had in mind, but God knows best.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-89073280770733313342016-08-27T11:39:07.449-05:002016-08-27T11:39:07.449-05:00I believe them. But obviously they weren't pla...I believe them. But obviously they weren't planning on getting pregnant again so quickly. I don't think from the timing that they knew they were pregnant here. Maybe they were just starting to wonder. Who knows?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-74310046381161282672016-08-27T11:36:45.029-05:002016-08-27T11:36:45.029-05:00That's not true. Please be careful what you sa...That's not true. Please be careful what you say. The shows are atleast three months behind. Spurgeon is only 6 months here, but he is 9 months now. We also don't know when in February. I am due end of February/beginning of March and am only 13 weeks. Three months ago I hadn't even yet conceived! And you normally don't know you're pregnant until after 4 weeks. The baby was probably a surprise to them after this episode, or they were just starting to wonder if they could be pregnant, but God gave them the baby so it was God's plan for them right now. They're not required to take birth control if they don't feel it's right. God still could have allowed them to go through the adoption process first if He had wanted them to.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-26839040595915614782016-08-27T01:19:58.994-05:002016-08-27T01:19:58.994-05:00Who says they wish to adopt an infant? There are m...Who says they wish to adopt an infant? There are many many kids in the foster care system.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09365972254902362800noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-82278978144564015142016-08-27T00:03:45.632-05:002016-08-27T00:03:45.632-05:00My advice (as an adoptive mother of three, with tw...My advice (as an adoptive mother of three, with two bio?) is to stop making it a public issue for discussion. I think it's pretty interesting that all other adoptive parents on here are suggesting some of the things things: 1. it's not as easy as you think 2. the process is going to look a lot different than they currently imagine (and it's going to be delayed as long as they keep getting pregnant) and 3. you have no idea 'till you're in the middle of it what it is *really* like. <br /><br />Be discrete. Be quiet. Heads down and silently go about your business . . . Carriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08772667430500306088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-73520542240611830322016-08-26T22:47:42.354-05:002016-08-26T22:47:42.354-05:00To the person who says not to adopt a child of dif...To the person who says not to adopt a child of different race -- their friends on the show, the Napier's, adopted a child of a different race and from a different country too! Doesn't look like a disaster to me! She seemed like a happy, playful, smiling little girl! Besides, I'm with another commenter on this site that doesn't believe they're serious about adoption. As the commenter said, Jimbob and Michelle have been praying about it for YEARS now. NEVER GOING TO HAPPEN! Its just a publicity ploy if you want the truth!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-83692550673624793362016-08-26T22:25:23.485-05:002016-08-26T22:25:23.485-05:00That is the truly heart breaking when people deali...That is the truly heart breaking when people dealing with infertility are waiting patiently to adopt. I hope they never bump one of those couples on a list!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-23013402521950717582016-08-26T20:54:44.689-05:002016-08-26T20:54:44.689-05:00Maybe they saved their discussion for after the ca...Maybe they saved their discussion for after the cameras stopped rolling. I think I would.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-49937930348488711202016-08-26T20:12:30.075-05:002016-08-26T20:12:30.075-05:00My sister-in-law & brother-in-law fostered 3 c...My sister-in-law & brother-in-law fostered 3 children (siblings), and it didn't work out at all. These adults are educated, experienced with social work, and were already fantastic parents to a bio child. The foster children acted out in sneaky and terrifying ways that would have scared and stumped any parent. The children finally had to go back into "the system," sad as it was. My in-laws went into it with the best of intentions, tried as hard as they could, and were devastated that things didn't work out. As you said, it is not always a walk in any kind of park. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6925412444274057427.post-45548595266374461902016-08-26T17:59:07.826-05:002016-08-26T17:59:07.826-05:00You do realize the camera was only on them for lik...You do realize the camera was only on them for like three seconds? Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11706901106062554238noreply@blogger.com