Monday, November 17, 2014

Update from the Dillards

In the following YouTube clips, Jill and Derick Dillard join Erin and Greg Smalley from Focus on the Family to discuss marriage and babies.

Dillards on Married Life


Jill and Derick's Fears of Being Parents



Changes to Jill and Derick's Marriage


Derick's Advice to Wives


Jill's Advice to Husbands

65 comments:

  1. Thank you Derick for your advice to wives. I realized that though I am so grateful to my husband and so proud of him, I don't let him know that enough! So thank you. Plus you two are so cute together. God bless.

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  2. i really like the new green! it's very restful on the eyes. great choice. goes great with the new header too. btw, that is a much better picture of jimbob & michelle.

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  3. What a sweet, informative interview, I really enjoyed it.Those two are a match made in heaven.Derick fits in perfectly, i feel like we have always known him.Thanks for posting this video for us fans.

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  4. BTW, a nice tweek on the website. The new color background and photos are very nice. Thanks, ladies for your efforts.

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  5. Obviously they are old clips. Derick said "We have only been married for three months" But they have been married for five now 😆

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    1. Derick & Jill were married June 2014, three months, I believe he knows how long he has been married, you must be thinking of Josh n Anna

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    2. June to November is 5 months.

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    3. Amanda is right. Jill & Derick have been married for 5 months now. Amanda was only saying that the interview was a couple months old because during the video, Derick mentioned they were married for 3 months.

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    4. June to November is 5 months

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    5. No, Amanda was correct. They've been married for 5 months now, not 3. This is not a current clip. Josh and Anna have been married for years, not months.

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    6. Yeah that's five months. June-November is five months.

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  6. Very nice interview with Jill and Derick. I just wish they would have let Jill and Derick talk more. The interviewers did more talking about themselves than Jill and Derick did answering the questions. It was good to here from the Dillard's.

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  7. I am am happy for the couple but, they haven't been married long enough to give advise about it . I would love see what they have to say in year. Kids change the marriage some because jill will have to learn to give her attention to both husband and bab. My advise to jill is have sleep time set for every night. For my son it was 8 pm all the way thru school. It was so funny we didn't have to say anything at 8 pm he was out like a light. As he got older his friend would get mad when he sleep over because he would fall asleep at 8.

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  8. Derick and Jill just got married! How can they be giving advice right now? They haven't even gone through all the seasons as a married couple yet. They should wait a few years before giving 'advice'.

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  9. Nice. I think Derick is such a good guy. The genuine article! He's already making a great husband and will be an excellent dad. Love to see their enthusiasm!

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  10. Sympathy-eating.... yah! That's the joy of being a hubby. Arguments...., well, in our marriage, we have been married for 10 years, and still waiting for the first argument. Here's a clue... honor your spouse, and let the other one have the last word, regardless if he/she is right or wrong. Also, know the difference between venting, brainstorming, and pride... then respond accordingly.

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  11. I really like the green theme! It is so much more easy on my eyes. I can read for so much longer. I don't get head aches like I did from staring at that bright blue for so long.
    Thanks Lily and Ellie!

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  12. I really like that the changed the color to green!!!!

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  13. I agree that until a couple has been married a while, they should NOT give marital advice; for they haven't had any experience in the ups and downs of a relationship yet. They are two kids trying to act like two old married people. Come back in 5 years and let us know how it's going, folks...

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  14. Agree. How does a couple barely married for a year advise those of us married for years with many stresses and demands. A bit simplistic in their advice too - try dealing with the complexities of marriage and all that goes along with life and raising kids - especially with the challenges of having a special needs child or a husband who has to be away from home. The 20 year old Dillards dishing out advice to those of us past 40 is a bit silly, and quite frankly offensive. I know they mean well but they should stick to the things they can actually advise about. I do like them but I get the sense the Duggars are taking on too much publicity, especially the girls. Not necessarily a good thing.

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    1. Just don't watch

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    2. They were just answering questions.It wasnt a Jill/Derick show on marriage advice...geesh!

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  15. I really like the new pictures of Michelle and Jim Bob and Jill and Derick. I didn't want to post anything negative about there being more flattering pictures but I'm glad those pictures were switched.

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  16. Perhaps marital advice may not be the right category - the Dillards are far too new to know what works in ironing out the crinkles in a relationship yet. They are still walking on air! But I love this lovely couple and like hearing how about their marriage is thus far, talking about becoming parents, etc. Rather than being a source of advice, it's more like a peek into how things are going. And that also makes me wonder why Jill kind of laid back on Twitter. Before and after the wedding she was regularly posting pics but she has since slacked off. Same with Jessa. I wonder if TLC has them limit it now...

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  17. I love love listening to Greg and Erin Smalley!

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  18. Hi Lily and Ellie!
    Please change Josie's picture on the header! And Jana's too!
    Jill and Derick also have cuter pictures of them together.

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  19. @AnonymousThe INTERVIEW is old. June 21 to November 17 is FIVE months

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  20. @Anonymous
    Josh and Anna have been married for six years.

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  21. LOVE the green color. Easy on the eyes.....agree with Madison!!!!

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  22. You don't have to read their advice if you feel like you already know it all! I know that with Josh & Anna, people were asking them for advice on marriage even before they'd been married a year and that they even spoke at a marriage conference very early in their marriage *because they were asked*. It is our responsibility to share what we can with others, even though we may not know it all. If people such as yourself (who have been married a super long time and are experts) were sharing more, maybe marriage would be in less trouble in our country today. We all have more to learn! The problems come when we think we know it all.

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  23. Even if they had only been married one day so far, they seem to have a joy-filled, Christ centered, husband/wife honoring focus and that is a great foundation. It is a beautiful and fresh reminder of what marriage should be, even and especially for those of us who have been married for 20+ years!

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  24. Thank you for sharing. I really enjoy learning about your new family. May God bless you all.

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  25. Hey, I love the vidoes u posted!! I saw another comment about u guys posting a picture a pic of Jill and how far along she is, could do that PLLLLLLLLEEEEEAAAAAAAASSSSSSSSSAAAAAAA

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  26. Delightful to listen to this exchange between two married couples whose love of GOD flavors their entire lives. You were both so encouraging with your positive comments. Derick and Jill....you are off to an amazing start with a positive and refreshing approach to your relationship and each other. Others would do well to heed what works no matter how many years we have been together. Being married 49 years, there were things you mentioned that refreshed me in the hearing....so thank you all for loving life and loving each other and being willing to share how that looks.

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  27. I like how you moved Josh & Anna's children by them to distinguish them more as their children instead of possibly being confused with the younger kids of Jim Bob & Michelle- love the new pics! I also wish the interviewers would have let them speak more- they talked over half of each clip, but it was nice to hear what we did from Jill & Derrick!

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  28. Derick and Jill, I am so happy for the both you. You story was so amazing I cried the whole time. (happy tears) I love sending y'all wedding gifts, baby gifts, and just because I want too. I sent several gifts, I just want to make sure y'all received them. They were surpose to be there the 1st week of October. I know y/all are very busy. Congratulation/s on Baby Dilly! Thanks for posting this video for us fans.

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  29. Please let us know if u guys r buying your home now from The Duggars as paying rent is not a very good way to help YOUR family achieve financial success. A

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  30. They may have only been married several months and they are sharing how they support one another and how things are going for them. You can be married one day and share what works for you in your relationship. They aren't actually telling others how to make a marriage work.

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  31. I like watching them as well, but they have not been married long enough to give advice. Just because they are famous does not make them experts.

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  32. We need more people like this on T.V. So if they get cancelled because of all the controversy that Ben has brought onto this family, i will be so upset.All was calm and peacefull until he came along.

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  33. Love the new pictures on the header…I just wish Jessa and Ben's was different

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  34. She meant five months instead of 3 months. Still a short time. It's like the book. None were married at the time. How can the girls talk about helpful the dating rules are. None had been married let alone for any length of time. None had dated another way to compare. And four in a sample isn't diverse anyway.

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  35. I have never met the Duggar family and was introduced to them only this past spring via their TV show "19 kids and counting". While it is true there is something to be said for life experience and maturity I applaud Derick and Jill and the entire Duggar clan for their transparency and willingness to take a stand for what they believe in a society that consistently wages war on the traditional values of home, faith and family.

    Sure, there are many seasons of life yet to be faced by this young couple but unless "Anonymous" is willing to confront the extreme superficiality of todays cultural icons (ever heard the song "Celebrity" by Brad Paisley?) these opinions would be better left unsaid.

    Popular media daily flashes and projects images & quips of young and old Hollywood "stars" as if they somehow hold deposits of wisdom untouched till now on topics such as family, the environment, religion, you name it. A persons level of fame or net worth does not endow them magically to "instructor or role model" status. Many of these individuals live lives that are utterly shipwreck.

    In summary, I would respectfully challenge Anonymous to 1) Be willing to own and take responsibility for your statements by giving a name and 2) Be willing to pray more for the Godly success of this young family rather than give in to negativity. No matter how hard we try, we will never do it perfectly...that's why the Gospel we hold so dear is one of Grace. But that doesn't give us an excuse to lower the standard.

    "Far better to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs though checkered by failure...than to take rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy much nor suffer much, for they live in that gray twilight that knows neither victory nor defeat."

    Theodore Roosevelt

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  36. Off topic but I just saw a picture on Twitter of Jinger wearing pants. It's their business what they wear but my opinion is they should address it, especially after all these years of telling fans/viewers that they don't wear pants. We've been hearing all their convictions over the years now we are seeing different. Please just address it like you do everything else then I won't be so confused with this family these days. I do, I don't. I am, I'm not. I don't wear this, I do wear this. We don't do that kind of music, we do that kind of music. Which is it?

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  37. The picture I saw on twitter shows them all sitting in the living room on the sofa. A few of them on their phones. What happened to sitting around for bible time?

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  38. I applaud you and your convictions against the LGBT and their petition to cancel the show. Especially the verse you posted in response. My prayers are with you and the family tonight as you hold true and unwavering to the Word of God on demoralizing themes in society. May God continue to shine His light and truth on the platform He has given your family. Blessings.

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  39. Jill and Derrick are a cute couple. Jill is just recently married and is premature in the advice giving department. She should be learning to give Derrick a chance to speak and she should learn to be a good listener to what he has to say. Jill used to speak a lot on her show in segments with her sisters while Ginger and Jana were mostly silent, but now she is married and should listen to what Derrick has to say and not be so eager to speak over him. Derrick and Jill mentioned briefly that they are glad to be done with the chaperoning and that is because the Duggars overdid the chaperoning a bit, and since they purpose to be an encouragement to young people they should tone down the chaperoning. Their courtship could have been more enjoyable part of their story had the chaperoning been a little less intrusive. I wish them much luck in their future!

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  40. Just want to mention to Jill that although she is a midwife, the natural childbirth at home has the drawback of not having an epidural pain killer. When I had my third baby, I gave birth in a hospital with an epidural pain killer and I will always remember how beautiful that night of childbirth was without pain, my husband in the chair, and me calmly laying in the bed without pain, and the calm bonding time we had that was so peaceful and the delivery that was so calm and easy without the pain. I don't think the Duggar girls need to put themselves through all that pain when they can find a good hospital that allows Doulahs and so she can have a peaceful calm pain free birth with a good anesthesiologist. Many hospitals have more natural settings that she would like but would allow for that epidural, some even have water birth opportunities. That pain free birth was such a blessed memory for me. There is no mandate for a woman to endure all that pain. I think she should consider it.

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  41. Wow! Marital advice from newlyweds??? I find it very hard to relate to this family, although I have a lot of respect for them. Their lives are picture perfect. Their show never shows an argument or a disagreement of any magnitude. All are healthy. No money problems. No relationship problems. How does the average person relate??? This show has changed and they seem more like Hollywood stars now.

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  42. Lighten up folks, they were just asked questions, and they were polite enough to answer. By the way they saw a successful marriage every day with their parents so they could give good advice.Some people are just plain jealous of blatant obvious happiness when they see it, so they find any minute detail to nit pic.Thats really kinda sad.

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  43. I really like this Smalley couple.They are very sweet.Who are they? Can you give us more information about them? Thanks.

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  44. I just don't understand why so many people have to be negative. I enjoyed the interview. Most of us can only wish to have a family like this. Why cant we all just wish them the best? God bless this family and everyone that's a part of this blog. Love the new look Have a blessed day.

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  45. I did enjoy the interview, but agree that Jill should pause more and give Derick time to respond to questions; While I am happy for them, all marriages have issues and challenges that need to be worked on.

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  46. I agree with anonymous #32! Why I question this family is because nobody, but nobody is that perfect. Nobody. Heck, the kids never even fall down and get a skinned knee! None of the teenagers ever sass; nobody even gets a cold (they did get chicken pox or something one time I think); their cars never break down; their appliances never fail -- just total perfection. Their house is always clean. The kids are always clean. The kids don't squabble with each other. The worst I think I ever saw was a backed up toilet. Not! This is not a reality show.

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  47. I think that Jill and Derek answering questions about their own months of married life is fine - but billing it as "Derek's advice to wives" is a completely different thing. Imagine a 20 something giving marriage advice to women twice his age - that's just kind of funny. Probably having more kids than you can physically handle is bad advice for most women. Not sure his advice would work for most women. Nice guy, but I think he's swallowed up by the Duggars publicity machine.Sometimes negativity can be a sign of intelligence, not always a bad thing!

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  48. @Anonymous
    It's not just Ben who brought the controversy. This whole family is controversial from Josh working for FRC to Michelle making political calls to prevent the equality act from passing, even educating their children to believe that evolution is false and that Noah's ark is actually true. If something is going to cancel the Duggar family show believe me it won't be Ben.

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  49. These kids are still newlyweds! What makes them think they know enough to give other people advice?

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  50. The key to a good marriage is" Communication!"

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  51. Acceptance, Truth, Trust, Love and having Faith in each other. Communication.... We have been married for 27 years.... Still crazy about each other.

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  52. @natalia

    Hi Natalia,

    Greg Smalley is the executive director of Focus on the Family's Marriage and Family Formation. He and his wife have a website that explains more about their ministry:
    http://www.smalleymarriage.com/index.php

    ~Lily and Ellie

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  53. I'm not sure why people are complaining that Jill & Derick shouldn't be giving marriage advice - did these people actually watch the videos? They're sharing things they have learned already as expectant parents, and that's what the videos are titled - giving wisdom to expectant parents. These videos are great! Thanks for sharing them.

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  54. when I first saw the titles of the videos I had the same response..."advice??? from those newbies??" but then I watched the videos and I really enjoyed them. They are simply sharing their experiences as a new couple facing many big life events. Especially Derick went through many changes coming back from Nepal, getting engaged, married, back to the us, moving into the duggar limelight, expecting a baby, learning to be on tv...so much going on. That's the story they are telling, and how they are swimming through it.

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