Saturday, April 12, 2014

"Things are going great"

With Jill Duggar engaged to Derick Dillard and Jessa Duggar in a serious courtship with Ben Seewald, life is changing for the Duggar clan...and this is only the beginning of the season of relationships and weddings for the super-sized family. We have been giving you updates on Derick and Jill's engagement all week, and now it's time to hear from Ben and Jessa on their courtship:

64 comments:

  1. Don't feel bad, we had a chance to hear about Jessas courtship for months, a little glory for Jill is nice too.I was just thinking that I love every member in that family equally,I don't have a favorite.Bless them all! I hope I'm still around for Josies wedding and us fans get to see that one on T.V. too , that would be awesome!!!!!

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  2. Can't get enough of these four lovebirds!!! It is so refreshing to see how they love and respect each other. When God is in it, love is a beautiful thing!!!!!!

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  3. When will the most recent episode be put on here? I only trust this website. Thanks

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  4. I don't think the video is working. It shows up on my phone, blank. It might be my phone but I don't think so. Would love to see the video!

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  5. So excited for Jill and Derek! Also, Ben and Jessa just need to get engaged so they can have a double wedding!

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  6. Jessa and Ben look soooo in love in that video. It's sweet to see. Hope they get engaged soon!
    Hannah L.

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  7. hey
    Do you know if the new episodes are on youtube or if the will be there?

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  8. Can't get to see their comments. Would like to.

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  9. awe... many blessings over your relationship....May the Oil of the Holy Spirit and the Blood of Jesus consume you in your journey together.

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  10. Can I get the link? There's no video showing up. :( thank you!

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  11. Its not showing up is there any where else I could view it?

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  12. Can you post the link in the comments, like last time? Can't see it on my phone. Thank you! :)

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  13. Jessa and Ben have that sizzling eye contact going on. My gosh.

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  14. LILY AND ELLIE,
    Thank you so much for doing this blog! I enjoy it so much! Your hard work has shown!
    I wanted to know if you could change the pictures on the front page to possibly newer ones... Because the twins and Joy Anna look so much younger! Do you think you could use the pictures from the new season or do you not have access to those yet?

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  15. The video isn't embedded for my iPod

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  16. As an Orthodox Jew whose community always has courtship without any touching whatsoever and chaperones, I am actually dismayed at the courtship I am seeing with Ben and Jessa and I would be surprised if it went to marriage. People watching may not realize that courtship is actually a very enjoyable, meaningful experiance to achieve real closeness. JimBob is really having a very intrusive needling role here- his screening of Ben should have been done before he permitted the courtship. The rules of no touching are understood- why is this constantly being brought up? Why are the chaperones constantly being so intrusive?

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  17. This is so beautiful. So happy for these young ladies. My husband and I will be celebrating 25 yrs in June. I pray your first 25 yrs are just as wonderful as mine have been. Nothing like a beautiful marriage that God puts together. Congrats to you both. Just wish I could be there to see this beautiful day take place.

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  18. They are so in love!! That was adorable! And the way they gaze into each other's eyes...sigh.... :-) So very happy for you Jessa!!!

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  19. They look so cute together and seem more in love now than before. Great to hear the update. Thank you for putting it on here.

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  20. Thanks for posting! It must be loading slowly, for I am unable to play it....
    ♡ Ellie S.

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  21. They looked really in love. Can't keep there eyes of each other. They will be the next to get married. Can see they wanted to kiss in the vedio.

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  22. They look so in love. to bad they can't kiss or hold hands. They can't stop starring into each other eyes. May they will start having kids right away marriage.

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  23. Ben and Jessa are so sweet. There is much wisdom in not rushing things for the sake of entering into the next phase just because "it's about time they did", but instead to trust wholly on God's timing even within the relationship. That's not to say it has to go according to when the world deems okay to be engaged either (eg. attaining full college qualifications, etc). They are an exemplary godly young couple.

    I would be so interested in hearing their personal testimonies of how each of them first got saved (including Derick and the other Duggars who have been born again -- apart from Michelle as she has shared how God saved her), but I don't suppose we'd be reading anything like that in mainstream media... Hopefully someone will be able to ask them and share with us one day :)

    And it'd be so wonderful if both Dill and Bessa - and maybe even Michelle and Jim Bob - adopt!

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  24. I cant seem to be able to watch the videos

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  25. What a nice interview, impressed that these two are so comfortable together and have such a mature and positive attitude about their relationship parameters, chaperones, etc. They are respectful of each other, their families, their upbringing, what a great attitude they have. They just take it all in stride. Seems to me that if they can keep their commitments to the Lord and the precepts of their faith, then they will be well equipped to keep their commitments to each other.

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  26. I can't see the video :( but I love you guys! They're both super cute couples!!!! People need to stop hating on the Duggars' flaws and focus on their good characteristics! Love from Ava <3 :D

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  27. Congratulations Derek and Jill! This is so exciting to hear of your engagement! Congratulations Ben and Jessa! on your courtship! Both of you couples look meant for each other. Praise God! I have watched you girls grow up on your show and this is exciting. Thank all of you for sharing with us and may God continue to bless you on your journey through life.

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  28. I am so excited for these girls!! You would think I was part of the family - just love this family and how they live their lives. I feel Ben and Derick will make the girls Godly wonderful husbands. May God bless them always.

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  29. Looks like they are people of few words!

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  30. There's no video. I've tried on my ipad and my laptop, please can you post it again?

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  31. Is it sopose to show something under the post because it is not showing anything. Thanks!

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  32. Watch new episode on YouTube (not the best quality) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XgYLmtFvSx4 :) :)

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  33. Glad that things are going nicely for Jill and Derrick, I really am. I can't help but have a question for JimBob and Michelle. Given their strict stay at home daughter beliefs, and their daughters don't officially train or educate themselves to be anything real in the professional world, what safeguards do their belief system build in, if any, if the unthinkable happens, ie, wives become widowed and have themselves and children to support? How can they justify leaving their daughters vulnerable to something that could happen to anyone? The Lord provides, yes, but he also helps those who help themselves. You need something to fall back on in life, and I don't think there is anything for these wives to fall back on. Not all fundamental families like their family have the financial resources that they do. Yet again, when the Lord calls JB and Michelle one day, splitting up this inheritance 20 ways won't go that far. Thank you for allowing me to bring up this very real and serious potential life matter. I would love to read a response from them to this issue.

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  34. Advice to Josh: Think carefully with the intellect that God has given you. Your parents' lifestyle with multiple mega children isn't a realistic lifestyle when living in the real world; ie set work hours, housing costs, getting around in a real city.. It may be easier in a rural, single family home type of environment like Aransas, and the like, but not so easy to take public transportation with rubber flip flops when running after multiple children. The stress it will put upon you, the sole provider isn't a cake walk. Advice from someone older than your parents who has had children to care for..

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  35. Josh, you also can't expect your siblings to move in and help out. That is NO life for any of them. Anna and your household is your responsibility, not theirs. You both will age and it isn't fair to strap an apron on MacKynzie. Let her grow and bloom in her own pot.

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  36. I think they are wonderful together and it's nice to see Jessa go through this phase of life. I'm glad that they are taking their time courting before becoming engaged and married. One thing I don't like about courtships is when they last only a couple of months and then they are immediately rushed into the entire physical side of the relationship in one night. I think Jessa is very mature and smart about relationships. You can tell by Jessa and Ben's Facebook and Ben's Twitter that they hang out a few times a week…I think that's great because it worried me that Josh and Anna only hung out face to face a few times before getting married. I wonder when Ben and Jessa will tie the knot…and I hope that whenever they do Ben continues his education!

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  37. Lily and Ellie, hello there:*) I have been trying to get this message to the Duggars ever since the Joplin tornado.I was in an F5 tornado and every spring I worry so much and have extreme anxiety for those people I love and have no underground shelter.I know they have a steel frame home, but a direct hit of a category four or five really would cause severe destruction to their home.I know the family has the know how and the equipment to build one, I also think it would be a fun family .project.I would really appreciate if you passed this message on so I can finally rest easy this tornado season.You see when you survived through something so horrific it heightens ones fear immencely.Will you please let me know you passed this message on? Thank you and sorry this has nothing to do with this post.Sincerely,Natalie from Nebraska

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    1. I have thought the same thing. Hopefully they have a shelter, but choose not to show it on tv.

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  38. I predict that by the end of this year Derick and Jill will be married, Ben and Jessa will be engaged, and Jinger (and possibly Jana) will be in a relationship that will turn into courtship.

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  39. I love the duggars and a lot of their beliefs and everything. There's a lot to learn from them. However, their "boundaries" on dating dont really make much sense to me. They say no hand holding till engagement yet they have really close physical hugs and they are touchy feely with putting their hands on their man's arm and chest. In that video jessa and ben sure got pretty close face to face. Then they say they are saving the physical stuff for marriage. Idk but it sure seems like it should be the opposite. I think hand holding is the most innocent of all affection. Their "rules" dont make much sense to me regarding courtship.

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  40. I can't see this video on my tablet nor on my smartphone. Any way to update the format to enable that? Thanks for all you do!

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  41. @Anonymous....and how about John David?????

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  42. @AnonymousRemember, Josh does not seem to have "set hours"! He's been traveling more than he's been "at " FRC!

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  43. It's so sweet to see them growing together as a couple...however, like some other fans, I think the most innocent of hand holding is taken to another level. Not sure why they feel that this is crossing boundaries. I guess their rules are their rules, and they are obedient enough to listen.

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  44. I could not see this video but I saw the internationally published television show where JimBob laughed so hard at Ben's mini golf playing that he had to get up and leave the seat. The attitude displayed on the television shows is that Ben is a source of a 'joke' and a 'laugh', someone to make some jokes about and get a good laugh 'at' , but not with as far as it looks so far. JimBob does have a sense of humor, such as when he said that Jill might get all the way over seas to meet her love prospect and find out he has some weird mannerisms and then just want to be friends, so it is best to figure this much out before investing anymore of oneself into words of love long distance. That was kinda funny but not picking on Derrick at all. I kind of agree with M. Y. ' s (currently # 16) the parents and family should take an appropriate role in the relationship. Not knowing much about televised reality television I am not sure if this is very deviated from what would be normal, I am sure prospective in laws do have a lot to say and laugh at about their future in laws but most people don't see it. I wonder how Ben takes all the jesting and if his responses really are a fair indication of his personality - I guess everyone thinks he should just laugh along with them (at himself). I think it might be a bit confusing to be the brunt of jokes.

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  45. When I read anon 39 remarks about the close hugs and hands on the chest and all that I kind of agree that the girls really shared a lot about the purpose of courtship being to get to know the person before the physical relationship happens in marriage. Now that she is engaged Jill is not really being a clear example of her own pre marital behavior messages to the world. Jill had bothe her hands on Derrick's hand and her fingers completely entwined in his in the video where they talked about being newly engaged and she said she was maybe going to be so mindless entwined with him that the others would be doing all the real planning for her wedding. That is not really focusing on anything practical anymore girl. Jill's going to influence Jessa who is already getting into la la land where Jill said she and Derrick will be residing for the duration of the engagement.

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  46. Hey I was just wondering if you knew whether or not they were going to broadcast Jill and Derick's wedding the day of, or later when the season starts back up. Thanks!

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  47. Jill was interviewed and said the main difference between courting and dating is that in courting you set rules and boundaries and you don't cross them. I believe you can do the same thing in "dating" and not cross your boundaries either. It's all about standards. If you have them,,,, you have them. You don't need parents listening in on texts, skypes, and phone calls! What are these young adult women 10 yrs old?
    In the same interview, Michelle and JimBob say that they didn't save their first kiss for marriage... So what? They absolutely claim to have a wonderful, loving stable marriage, and it didn't make one bit of a difference, did it? They should address that.

    I think the poster suggesting that the Duggars read this blog and respond to some good questions meant that they didn't necessarily need to type answers here, but respond to these issues on their show.

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  48. I am reminded of the passage, "For by grace are you saved through faith, it is the gift of God, it is not of yourselves". Some of the things are not 'wrong' unless some 'standard' says they are 'wrong' but we are supposed to have no other God's before the God of the ten commandments and to get our standards from God and Jesus.

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  49. @AnonymousI know that they don't, Jim bob stated in the past that they go to a room in the middle of the house. That will not suffice an F4 or F5. I hope they get that message.

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  50. I know, I know everyone has an opinion, but my goodness the responses in these post. If some of you have questions about hand holding and touching, you may want to check out Kelly Bates blog she answers a lot of questions on their thought process on courting.

    Based on what i have read and viewed it seems as if the couples do decide on their own boundaries. The parents and chaperons are basically accountability partners. These accountability partners only help the couples maintain the goals they have set for themselves.Similar to a disciplining relationship.

    Examples: Josh and Anna waited until engagement to hold hands. While Zach Bates and Whitney Bates were ok with holding hands prior to engagement.

    Here is a link to Kelly Bates Blog. She answers many questions about courting for both Erin and Zach. But this link is to Zachs courtship post. http://blog.thebatesfamily.com/2013/07/17/courtship-chronicle/

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  51. I think Jessa and Ben won't get married because Ben does not his own job or house yet!!! And they are too young to thinking about getting married or engaged!!!

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  52. @Amber Meghani

    Hi Amber,

    TLC hasn't announced the timing of the wedding episode yet, but we will let you know when they do. Rest assured, they will air it as soon as they can.

    ~Lily and Ellie

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  53. @Anonymous

    Hi Anonymous 42,

    Thanks for the feedback. Are you able to view other videos we post on your tablet/smartphone?

    ~Lily and Ellie

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  54. @Sadie

    Hi Sadie,

    Here's the direct link to the video: http://www.people.com/people/videos/0,,20806048,00.html

    ~Lily and Ellie

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  55. Hi Readers,

    For those of you who are having trouble viewing the video, here's the direct link: http://www.people.com/people/videos/0,,20806048,00.html

    Enjoy! :)
    Lily and Ellie

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  56. HI! Loved the video :) I could watch it on the computr,but not my iPod. Strange ( and frustrating :) ),because it really hasnt happened before. I the colors theywere wearing in the pictures, do you kow if those pictures will be used in the show? Is Josiah still at ALERT training? because I didn't see him in there :)
    Blessings.

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  57. Anna stated on a recent show that life is different now that Josh has set hours.

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  58. @Anonymous

    I agree with you! Supposedly, JimBob and Michelle raised and are raising their children to walk in faith. Therefore, why do the over 18 young adults require all this monitoring; It sounds like Michelle and JimBob do not trust them!

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  59. Someone mentioned in one of these post about intimacy and how difficult it would be to be so intimate after no intimate contact. Personally, I think that must be the fun part. Not all couples rush into this area once they get married with consummating the marriage. They can hold hands, kiss, and do other things with out any guilt, worry about being caught and even pregnancy. Perfect time to enjoy the process.

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  60. @Marlene Young I agree about Jim Bob being intrusive and his needling. I was very encouraged by Jessa defending Ben when Jim Bob asked Ben if he was "lovesick" on the April 15th episode. She should do that for her beau when her family becomes overbearing or rude and Ben should defend Jessa if his family is rude. Go Jessa!

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  61. Awww.... so sweet. I am so happy they are now engaged and I am happy Jessa and Ben are so in love. I am so excited for Baby Dilly! Aaaaaahhh! Can't wait for that baby! I really want to find out the gender and what the 2 are going to name the baby!

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